Are there any other guys here who are just not into cuddling? (married, women)

[VTHokieFan]

I've been seeing this girl for about 3 weeks now and whenever we've slept over at each others places, she lays on top of me in a cuddling way when we go to sleep. How does she think I'm supposed to sleep with her 120ish pound body on my chest? I guess I'm just a cold person? Maybe I'm weird? I just don't like to be touched regardless of how I feel about someone, and I do have feelings for her. Any other guys like this?

I can understand needing to "deal" with this when/if I get married, but at 3 weeks my mantra is: "I have work the next day, we're *done*, you're sober, it's only 10PM, your house is 5 miles away....go home."

Is my behavior odd?

[xxbabeechick]

Maybe it is. Most guys I've been with have been more into cudding than I am!

[DRGirl]

Most of women love cuddling. I agree it's not the most confortable sleeping position, at least for me, but why will I saty overnight with a man if he's not going to cuddle for at least some time? Do you dislike it at all or is it that she wants to do it all night?

Also, cuddling isn't something you have to "put up with" when you are married. That's something you do to get emotionally closer to the other person.

[JetJockey]

Originally Posted by VTHokieFan

I've been seeing this girl for about 3 weeks now and whenever we've slept over at each others places, she lays on top of me in a cuddling way when we go to sleep. How does she think I'm supposed to sleep with her 120ish pound body on my chest? I guess I'm just a cold person? Maybe I'm weird? I just don't like to be touched regardless of how I feel about someone, and I do have feelings for her. Any other guys like this?

I can understand needing to "deal" with this when/if I get married, but at 3 weeks my mantra is: "I have work the next day, we're *done*, you're sober, it's only 10PM, your house is 5 miles away....go home."

Is my behavior odd?

My view is that once you're having sex on a regular basis or are in a relationship of some sort it's extremely rude to kick them out after having sex. I was seeing a guy a looooong time ago and the first time we had sex he asked me to leave afterwards... It made me feel like a booty call and I stopped seeing him.

As for cuddling, I don't like it. I can't fall asleep if anyone is touching me, and my ex used to roll over and try to cuddle with me in the middle of the night and it would wake me up every time. Blah.

[Red On The Noodle]

Originally Posted by VTHokieFan

I guess I'm just a cold person? Maybe I'm weird? I just don't like to be touched regardless of how I feel about someone, and I do have feelings for her. Any other guys like this?

I can understand needing to "deal" with this when/if I get married, but at 3 weeks my mantra is: "I have work the next day, we're *done*, you're sober, it's only 10PM, your house is 5 miles away....go home."

Is my behavior odd?

You sound like my ex -- cold and distant. You don't like to be touched. I feel sorry for the women you're seeing and hope they realize this very quickly.

[sierraAZ]

Statistically, you're not that strange, in general. Her way of "cuddling" certainly is, though! Never heard of anybody "cuddling" by spreading herself on top of a man for an extended period of time.

[VTHokieFan]

Originally Posted by Red On The Noodle

You sound like my ex -- cold and distant. You don't like to be touched. I feel sorry for the women you're seeing and hope they realize this very quickly.

Quit projecting your hatred for your ex onto me. Get your issues resolved on your own. Using me as a proxy won't help you get over him.

[ja1myn]

Originally Posted by VTHokieFan

I've been seeing this girl for about 3 weeks now and whenever we've slept over at each others places, she lays on top of me in a cuddling way when we go to sleep. How does she think I'm supposed to sleep with her 120ish pound body on my chest? I guess I'm just a cold person? Maybe I'm weird? I just don't like to be touched regardless of how I feel about someone, and I do have feelings for her. Any other guys like this?

I can understand needing to "deal" with this when/if I get married, but at 3 weeks my mantra is: "I have work the next day, we're *done*, you're sober, it's only 10PM, your house is 5 miles away....go home."

Is my behavior odd?

I'm a guy and I like to cuddle. Perhaps you are a bit odd!

[fleetiebelle]

I don't like to sleep cuddling or touching, but if we're just lying in bed talking or whatnot, it's fine. And I'd certainly be insulted if after sex he turned his back to me or wanted me out.

[Raptor76]

If she is laying on top of you, that aint cuddling