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When it comes to opinions on this, it's pretty much a mixed bag, or so it would seem. Ive encountered some women who say they would be thoroughly offended and outraged by their husband/boyfreind watching pornography. Ive also encountered some women who say they dont care all that much about it, right down to a scarce few who believe it or not, say they would, and have watched porn with their husband/boyfreind.
So ladies and gents of City-Data, what are your opinions?
Addiction:
The experience of sexual arousal can be intense when viewing pornography, and as a result, an addiction can be very easily formed. To respond to the body’s urges for “another hit” reinforces a habit that becomes extremely difficult to break. The combined physical and psychological responses to pornography make it “the crack cocaine of sexual addiction”. Addiction itself develops through progressively dangerous stages: addiction, escalation, desensitization, and then acting out sexually. The dangers of pornography are evident with every stage more destructive than the one before.
Destruction of Intimacy:
Intimacy is based on trust and commitment. The dangers of pornography can be seen as a constant erosion of those values and qualities. Almost without exception, husbands keep their addiction to porn a secret from their wives. Over the long term, the results are guilt and isolation: the husband retreats emotionally and finds himself in a barrenness of soul. He has lost any intimacy that he was experiencing with his wife, and has discovered that pornography initially excites but, without fail, disappoints.
Sex without intimacy is hollow and futile. Yet within the framework of intimacy, sex is an awesome way for a husband and wife to connect emotionally and physically: it has the ability to provide true intimacy, joy, and sexual satisfaction!
Decreased Excitement and Satisfaction:
Research has shown that repeated exposure to pornography not only results in a diminished sexual arousal but also a decreased satisfaction with the sexual partner and the partner’s sexuality.
Despair:
The dangers of pornography come with a hidden price tag! Many men involve themselves in porn to try to fill some need, or simply out of a curiosity—and then quickly discover they are being controlled by a destructive habit. By this stage, intervention from the outside is usually necessary. Confiding in a trusted friend or counselor is the first step of the journey to become free. Unfortunately for men who try to hide their addiction, there is a spiraling dynamic of guilt, emptiness, isolation, and perverted thinking that takes place. The end of such a spiral is despair.
Warped Thinking and Desensitization:
Pornography leaves the impression that sex is unrelated to love, commitment or marriage; and that irresponsible sex has no undesirable penalties. Desensitization of rape as a crime, misconceptions about the popularity of certain sexual practices, and a decrease in the care of female sexuality are additional effects of repeated viewing of pornography.
I dont know why peole in general have such a hard time allowing other people to believe whatever they want to believe in. I dont think the OP is making fun of atheists or trying to convert anyone into a christian. Whats an ancient comic book hero for you, is the core of someone elses life and belief system. I dont have much problem with porn although I rarely watch it. Many associate porn with masturbation, which has some actual health benefits for those that dont get laid as often as they would like. Of course there are some drawbacks as well.
It all comes down to compatibiliy, if you don't want to be in a relationship whith someone who watches porn then you need to choose someone who thinks the same way you do.
I dont know why peole in general have such a hard time allowing other people to believe whatever they want to believe in. I dont think the OP is making fun of atheists or trying to convert anyone into a christian. Whats an ancient comic book hero for you, is the core of someone elses life and belief system. I dont have much problem with porn although I rarely watch it. Many associate porn with masturbation, which has some actual health benefits for those that dont get laid as often as they would like. Of course there are some drawbacks as well.
Meh...I don't care what anyone believes.
I do think that honesty is the best policy, however.
If I post this quote about masturbation
"If you do it, you'll go blind"
I think it is best to say that the source of the quote is my crazy mom
Some people may read Melanie25's post and think that it actually has some validity, when, it does not appear to.
Forget watching porn. Hang a mirror over your bed, get a tripod and camera, and make your own. That's how I get down. It's strictly for the the grown and sexy, around here. First of all, gotta have a bag or kit, complete with body oils, lubes, and feathers. Lastly, buy your girl some lingerie, so she'll look good, when you got her down.
Last edited by Just1Fan; 01-22-2012 at 11:56 PM..
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