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Well, I would think you are really weird. After all, if you don't want sex, why are you leading these women on, by making out and kissing? If you don't want sex, give a quick peck on the cheek at the door at the end of the date. Don't come in, and start wrestling on the sofa...because women will think you want sex...
Back in college had a lot of one night stands and wild times buttl had been dating someone exclusively for years. Just recently got back into the dating game been doing some online dating and every date turns into sex on the first date terrible problem to have right lol.
Anyhow i jave been wanting to stop this for two reasons first im scared of stds and sleeping with so many random people isnt good for odds but also none of these dates wind up turning into anything often not even hanging out again.
Just curious what a womens reaction would be if a guy turns down first date sex? Btw i should mention these dates have started with kissing and they are always the ones wanting to take it to the bedroom. I dont want to seem like a prude and also dont want them to think im not into them but also dont want to sleep with everydate on the first nite
I think you can take responsibility for your actions, walk your dates to their door, kiss them goodnight, and leave. Stop putting yourself in situations where it goes far enough for you to have to make that decision on the first date, and you won't have to worry about what women would think.
If you want to be a gentleman, then be one. Nothing is stopping you.
Just curious what a womens reaction would be if a guy turns down first date sex?
In my experience, women really do not appreciate being turned down for sex.
The reactions that I've gotten seem like over-the-top bad acting in community theater. Looks of shock. Interrogations. Accusations. It's quite ridiculous.
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Originally Posted by Trimac20
The other responses in this thread just confirms to me the double standard.
This.
If a woman turns down a guy's advance, it's no big deal.
If a guy turns down a woman's advance, it's armageddon.
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Originally Posted by jasper12
Well, I would think you are really weird. After all, if you don't want sex, why are you leading these women on, by making out and kissing?
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Men are so strange. I will never figure them out.
We want a blow job.
But seriously,
We want a blow job.
But really,
Plenty of times I've wrestled on the sofa with someone I wasn't going to have sex with. The reason, I wanted to make out, touch some boobs, but didn't want to have sex.
There ARE many of us women who wouldn't like to have sex on the 1st date. So the answer is not all of us would be offended or think you are not into us if you don't pursue sex on the 1st date.
I am your counter-part. I don't want sex on the first date (not moral reasons, but health and other reasons, mainly that a woman who would do that for me would do that for anyone - I'm no alpha, why is she throwing herself at me, she will stab me in the back and do that to another man in three days, etc.)
I'm not even going to kiss you or hug you, or even try to, or even hint at it. I don't know you well enough to know if you want that or not, so best to do nothing at all until you give me a sign, and not until I sense there's chemistry. In fact, I might not even touch you either, as that in itself can be read as sexual, which might offend you; you might not see me as sexually attractive so even doing that would be a faux pas; I go even further: I keep my eyes off your boobs for the most part too, as that can be read as gawking. Yes, I am old-fashioned. Hard being red-blooded as hell along with all that.
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Well, I would think you are really weird. After all, if you don't want sex, why are you leading these women on, by making out and kissing? If you don't want sex, give a quick peck on the cheek at the door at the end of the date. Don't come in, and start wrestling on the sofa...because women will think you want sex...
Men are so strange. I will never figure them out.
Some guys - maybe a minority - do like to cuddle, non-sexual touching as women do.
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In my experience, women really do not appreciate being turned down for sex.
The reactions that I've gotten seem like over-the-top bad acting in community theater. Looks of shock. Interrogations. Accusations. It's quite ridiculous.
This.
If a woman turns down a guy's advance, it's no big deal.
If a guy turns down a woman's advance, it's armageddon.
We want a blow job.
But seriously,
We want a blow job.
But really,
Plenty of times I've wrestled on the sofa with someone I wasn't going to have sex with. The reason, I wanted to make out, touch some boobs, but didn't want to have sex.
Why's that difficult to understand?
Yeah it's like, if a man is a lecher there's something wrong with him, yet women complain about him being a horn-dog and only concerned about sex.
Women complain about men only wanting sex on the first date, but when they don't, but the women does, there's something wrong with him.
In my experience, women really do not appreciate being turned down for sex.
The reactions that I've gotten seem like over-the-top bad acting in community theater. Looks of shock. Interrogations. Accusations. It's quite ridiculous.
This.
If a woman turns down a guy's advance, it's no big deal.
If a guy turns down a woman's advance, it's armageddon.
We want a blow job.
But seriously,
We want a blow job.
But really,
Plenty of times I've wrestled on the sofa with someone I wasn't going to have sex with. The reason, I wanted to make out, touch some boobs, but didn't want to have sex.
Why's that difficult to understand?
Found ur response to be very funny but also true. Why cant a guy just want to makeout and touch some boobs but not have sex. I enjoy sex im definately not a prude but if i sleep with every date i have im gonna have a number in the hundreds by the time i settle down with someone. I dnt get whats so wierd about wanting to fool around but not have sex right off the bat
I am not a piece of meat!!! Why should anyone be offended if they are denied sex? Guys deal with it on regular basis, you can grow from rejection. I have denied a couple of women sex, although not on an actual date, but in both cases they were my friends girls (one wife actualy). I love sex as much as the next person, but hold true friendship slightly higher than few minutes of passion. From my experience, first date sex is just that and normaly doesnt lead to much more. When I go on a first date, and like the girl, I will normaly not push to go that far.
In my experience, women really do not appreciate being turned down for sex.
The reactions that I've gotten seem like over-the-top bad acting in community theater. Looks of shock. Interrogations. Accusations. It's quite ridiculous.
This.
If a woman turns down a guy's advance, it's no big deal.
If a guy turns down a woman's advance, it's armageddon.
We want a blow job.
But seriously,
We want a blow job.
But really,
Plenty of times I've wrestled on the sofa with someone I wasn't going to have sex with. The reason, I wanted to make out, touch some boobs, but didn't want to have sex.
Why's that difficult to understand?
HAHAHAHAHA oh that's freaking RICH! Do you know how petty and childlike boys can act when they don't get sex?
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