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Old 01-31-2012, 09:58 AM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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sometimes it takes more courage and strength to turn and walk away rather that stand and right-fight.
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Old 01-31-2012, 10:01 AM
 
Location: Sacramento, Ca.
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Weakness? By whos definition? Someone who refuses to restrain themselves might find it weak. But to consider the consequences of gving into a fit of anger is the mark maturity and wisdom. Some experts now feel that the ability to manage emotions and to deal with people is more valuable than intelligence. One key to controlling your emotions is learning to control your thoughts. Negative thoughts can sap you of the energy you need to take action. Proverbs 19:11 says: “The insight of a man certainly slows down his anger, and it is beauty on his part to pass over transgression.” When someone upsets you, try to understand why he or she behaved that way. Was that person deliberately trying to hurt you? Could it be that he or she was acting impulsively or out of ignorance? Taking the time to consider these points is not weakness or copping out. On the other hand, they require patience and intuition to accomplish. Definite traits of a strong mind.
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Old 01-31-2012, 10:28 AM
 
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Many years ago, this girl broke up with me, because she said "we never argued". I thought that was a good thing. I guess it really depends what the argument is about, if its something very personal and close to your heart, chances are its worth standing up for. If its something trivial or nonsensical, because your SO needs drama in their life, I usually laugh pretty hard.
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Old 01-31-2012, 11:24 AM
 
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Many years ago, this girl broke up with me, because she said "we never argued". I thought that was a good thing.
That's a perfect example of a woman that loves drama. Maybe you should start holding purses when you are asked. If your "test" theory is correct then the drama queens will self-select out and you will be left with ones that aren't crazy.
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Old 02-01-2012, 03:14 PM
 
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Arguing is brutal and a win/lose situation.
Discussion of differences is a win/win situation.
I would walk away from a relationship early on if involved with a person who wanted to argue rather than discuss differences.
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Old 02-01-2012, 03:34 PM
 
Location: Huntersville/Charlotte, NC and Washington, DC
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is it a sign of weakness to be nice and turn the other way?Or should you stand up and give in to the argument??
I don't consider it a sign of weakness to walk away sometimes, in fact I think it shows intelligence to know when an argument is going to go nowhere but bad and walk away to prevent that. There are times to stick up and fight and times where walking away will save your life.
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Old 02-01-2012, 11:37 PM
 
Location: Blah
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is it a sign of weakness to be nice and turn the other way?Or should you stand up and give in to the argument??
It takes more strength to shut up and walk away...but what fun would that be. So be the weaker person and argue.

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Old 02-01-2012, 11:45 PM
 
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I don't consider it a sign of weakness to walk away sometimes, in fact I think it shows intelligence to know when an argument is going to go nowhere but bad and walk away to prevent that. There are times to stick up and fight and times where walking away will save your life.
Agreed... Each person has their own set of issues that he/she feels strongly about. If you're arguing about something simply because you want to be right, then that will probably end up doing more harm than good in the long run. However, if the argument is something that you feel very strongly about, then that is definitely a time (in my opinion) to speak up and clearly state your point of view.
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Old 02-02-2012, 12:02 AM
 
Location: The western periphery of Terra Australis
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Many years ago, this girl broke up with me, because she said "we never argued". I thought that was a good thing. I guess it really depends what the argument is about, if its something very personal and close to your heart, chances are its worth standing up for. If its something trivial or nonsensical, because your SO needs drama in their life, I usually laugh pretty hard.
That or she think that people who are close should argue because if people are being honest with each other they are bound to disagree. She probably grew up in a household that was full of arguing. I did too, but I was always the odd one out because I was quiet and didn't like an argument. Maybe the fact it was that when people argue it's often ego rather than the rightness or wrongness of something.

I think it depends. If you back down because you know you're wrong and a bad sport, you're being taken advantage of, it's weak. If you argue just to inflate your ego or prove you are smarter, you are just big-headed.
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Old 02-02-2012, 12:03 AM
 
Location: Viña del Mar, Chile
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I'm always single -- don't do what I do and you'll be just fine
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