Sex! Should I put out now or wait it out? (married, guy)

[smalltowngirl25]

The guy I'm seeing recently told me that he's going to be transferring to another school in another state for the semester for a few classes, but that he will be back on weekends. He has some family there(his sister w/ health problems as well I learned is in this state). He will be leaving for there next month and there until at least May, but he did say he might stay there after that for another family event in June. I guess his mom is getting re married. Right now he's living w/ his aunt&uncle.

Anyway, we have both been talking a lot about sex and taking it to the next level. Yet he knew he was going to be away a lot and come back on the weekends. So should I put out now and take the risk that that's all he wanted and he got it or should I hold out and wait for when he comes back?

[Whyte Byrd]

If you have to ask, hang onto it until you're sure. When you're sure, you don't ask strangers--not about something this important anyway.

[lovesMountains]

Originally Posted by smalltowngirl25

The guy I'm seeing recently told me that he's going to be transferring to another school in another state for the semester for a few classes, but that he will be back on weekends. He has some family there(his sister w/ health problems as well I learned is in this state). He will be leaving for there next month and there until at least May, but he did say he might stay there after that for another family event in June. I guess his mom is getting re married. Right now he's living w/ his aunt&uncle.

Anyway, we have both been talking a lot about sex and taking it to the next level. Yet he knew he was going to be away a lot and come back on the weekends. So should I put out now and take the risk that that's all he wanted and he got it or should I hold out and wait for when he comes back?

Good grief

PLEASE be smarter than this.

[howdydoody342]

LOL why not just see what happens, why have to have a huge discussion about it? u make the decision

[sierraAZ]

I didn't read it. I just saw the word "put out"! If you look at it as "putting out," just don't bother...

[CSD610]

Wow, sex advice from strangers. If you are not mature enough to make this decision on your own I have a feeling you are not mature enough to have sex.

[srjth]

I don't know if you've posted before but it seems like I've heard this story before.

Anyways, my intuition says he's not ever moving back to where you are for good or at least not for a looong while. If it's going to make you feel used then don't have sex with him.

[dynimagelv]

Be sure to use Birth Control......ONE aspirin.....held FIRMLY between your knees.

[smalltowngirl25]

My question is do you think he is just looking to get laid and nothing else?

[Wilson513]

I love that expression: "Put out." It brings dirty back to sex. Reminds me of back seat sex, skipping school sex, church festival sex.

Hot.

But, for your situation, it will just make the whole thing more difficult.