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Old 02-01-2012, 01:41 PM
 
Location: Hell, NY
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There is a thread about open relationships. Which led me to think about another question. What if right now your significant other asked you about having an open relationship? Where would you stand on it. What would you do if your partner approached you with this idea. This can be a new partner (someone you just started dating) or someone you've been married too for many years. How would them asking that question effect your relationship? Or would it effect your relationship?

Your thoughts please.
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Old 02-01-2012, 01:45 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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If my beloved husband asked me to consider this lifestyle, my first question would be,

WHAT TIME IS THE APPT WITH THE MARRIAGE COUNSELOR?
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Old 02-01-2012, 01:46 PM
 
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If my beloved husband asked me to consider this lifestyle, my first question would be,

WHAT TIME IS THE APPT WITH THE MARRIAGE COUNSELOR?

I think knowing my girl wanted sexual relations with someone else would be enough for ME to leave her..I don't think that our relationship could last. Just the knowledge alone would bother me. I couldn't handle it. So it makes me wonder if many relationships have failed because one partner or another brought it up..
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Old 02-01-2012, 01:48 PM
 
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I would be fine with it as long as the boundaries are clearly defined and adhered to. There is always the risk of losing someone, open relationship or not.
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Old 02-01-2012, 01:49 PM
 
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I would be fine with it as long as the boundaries are clearly defined and adhered to. There is always the risk of losing someone, open relationship or not.

So your saying that it doesn't bother you that your partner wants other people?
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Old 02-01-2012, 01:51 PM
 
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I think knowing my girl wanted sexual relations with someone else would be enough for ME to leave her..I don't think that our relationship could last. Just the knowledge alone would bother me. I couldn't handle it. So it makes me wonder if many relationships have failed because one partner or another brought it up..
My marriage wouldn't fail just because he might ask the question.

But that would be because I would work hard with him to get to the bottom of the real issue and work on that
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Old 02-01-2012, 01:52 PM
 
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I'd say "sure honey, just meet me at the lawyer's office first so we can get those divorce papers filed".

Because while he may be asking for an "open marriage" what I'd be hearing is "I think I can do better but I don't want to leave the safety of this relationship until I figure that out for sure".

So buh-bye! Have fun with that!
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Old 02-01-2012, 01:53 PM
 
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I'd probably break up with her, or if I were married, I would go to a divorce attorney. Open relationships and breaks are the same thing, in those cases, you're not in a relationship anymore. You're telling me you want to see other people, fine, do it. But we'd be done, you know?
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Old 02-01-2012, 01:54 PM
 
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I'd say "sure honey, just meet me at the lawyer's office first so we can get those divorce papers filed".

Because while he may be asking for an "open marriage" what I'd be hearing is "I think I can do better but I don't want to leave the safety of this relationship until I figure that out for sure".

So buh-bye! Have fun with that!

Yeah, something would just not sit right with me. Her asking in the first place is something that I think would constantly nag at me. I would always wonder what mader he ask that all of the sudden? Does she want someone else? Am I not satisfying her? I guess I could try to pretend that it wasn't about me, but in the end I don't think I could fool myself for ever..It wouldn't work for me personally.
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Old 02-01-2012, 01:55 PM
 
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What did the five fingers say to the face?


*NOTE: I am kidding.
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