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Old 02-05-2012, 10:29 PM
 
Location: Utah
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Originally Posted by princessx069 View Post
No I'm not desperate at all I can get whatever I want .. and what I want I get! I can't help it that he is willing to cheat on his wife .. that's his choice. And my bad for overlooking it!

And yea it's just something fun .. no one's heart is getting broken and no one is losing here we're all winning
Oh your not winning unless all you want is the quick screw and to be used.

Married men NEVER leave their wives. Why purchase the cow when you can get the milk for free? The only difference is that you won't be getting a house, money, dates ect. He is going to spend that on the wife and or kids while he uses you as his own personal, cheap, **** but if that is what you are into then go for it. I mean if the idea of being treated like a rag doll by an older man who has NOTHING to offer you and to whom you can offer nothing but youth?, and a loose body then go for it. You will see the fruits of your labor and this will be a hard lesson to learn so you best learn it young!

 
Old 02-05-2012, 10:29 PM
 
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Yes, I don't get this either. I'm sure if the OP did a search there are probably forums where single people hookup with married people and she would get all the "validation" and "praise" she needed.

I can't co-sign the married man thing.

Years ago, when I was naive and didn't know better I dealt with men who were living or married to other women, but I wasn't aware until later.

When I did find out I felt DECEIVED and was so angry. Besides the man being a major scumbag, you can get crazy wives/girlfriends that will want to do harm to YOU while giving her sleaze man a "pass". There is just too much drama and bad karma dealing with relationships like these.

I will never co-sign something like this, especially if there are children involved.
Well that's the difference between you and and the OP; You didn't know these guys were married.
 
Old 02-05-2012, 10:31 PM
 
Location: tampa bay
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Originally Posted by princessx069 View Post
No I'm not desperate at all I can get whatever I want .. and what I want I get! I can't help it that he is willing to cheat on his wife .. that's his choice. And my bad for overlooking it!

And yea it's just something fun .. no one's heart is getting broken and no one is losing here we're all winning
What about his wife? She will most likely be very hurt and in the long run you will never find true happiness at the expense of another!
 
Old 02-05-2012, 10:32 PM
 
Location: John & Ken-ville
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I met this man a few months ago at my job. I work at a hotel and he works out of town..which brings him to my hotel 3-4 days out of most weeks. He is quite older than me .. almost 20 years older than me, which is absolutely fine with me .. I love older men! Since the day I met him, I was attracted to him but never thought anything more about it. He always flirts with me, sometimes more indirectly than other times, but the more and more I see him the more upfront he is about things. The other guys that come along with him have openly told me things like "they know what is going on between the two of us" etc..however there is nothing going on between us right now other than a friendship and an attraction. This leads me to believe that they all talk about the situation and the more and more it goes on I don't think it's a joke I think he's really in to me. He is such a fun person I love talking with him, he's constantly making me laugh. I feel like we have such a good connection. So he flirts with me and makes suggestive jokes or he'll twist my words to make it seem like I'm saying something dirty... and this has gone on for a few weeks and has gotten more intense. So he's putting it out there but hasn't actually tried to take it to the next level, but I get the feeling he wants to.

Any tips on how I can be sure he wants to go further without making anything awkward. This is my biggest fantasy and everything I enjoy .. sneaking around and being bad makes everything so much fun

I know it's wrong to have a relationship with a married man, however if he is unhappy with his marriage and feels he wants to step out on his wife I feel that it's his decision. Obviously I would never force him to do anything, but it's pretty clear to me he's putting it out there.

This is all I have been thinking about for a few weeks since he has been flirting with me more openly and especially since his coworkers have been suggesting something is going on between us .. why not make everyone's thoughts/dreams reality?
I'm not even going to read the comments on this thread I have come here to comment and I am simply going to comment bluntly.

You will be the out-of-town piece of tail.

Period.

You are a young female with only sex and fun to offer him. He has a family with family bonds and you will never replace that. He is middle aged and looking for a spark to make him feel virile and manly and you are the one to fit the bill. Fall for it and you will be the fool. For you he's the easy attention you crave from an older man ... where's your father? Is he in your life? I doubt it.

Don't make the biggest mistake of your life.

Last edited by LuckyGem; 02-05-2012 at 10:41 PM..
 
Old 02-05-2012, 10:32 PM
 
Location: NC
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Originally Posted by princessx069 View Post
No I'm not desperate at all I can get whatever I want .. and what I want I get! I can't help it that he is willing to cheat on his wife .. that's his choice. And my bad for overlooking it!

And yea it's just something fun .. no one's heart is getting broken and no one is losing here we're all winning
Yup...win, win!

Go for it!
 
Old 02-05-2012, 10:34 PM
 
Location: Utah
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What are you hoping to gain? I mean if you just want the cheap thrill of screwing a married man then go for it but what else is it that you are after?

Do you think he is 'safe' because he is married? By 'safe' I mean no STDs, a stable income and that he is desired by another woman and thus increasing his real estate value? First off if he is looking for a cheap hotel screw he most likely is banging others on the side along with you and has picked something up. I mean his wife who is supposed to be desirous of him obviously doesn't want him which should be your first red flag. Second of all don't count on seeing a dime. Your not even a paid escort, hooker, street worker or young pampered ****. Your just a **** but some people are into that and if you are then more power to you. Finally if he truly isn't getting any at home there is at least one reason why that is the case and it won't be the story he is feeding to you.
 
Old 02-05-2012, 10:35 PM
Status: "A gentle man and a gentleman." (set 11 days ago)
 
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oh, but it's about to be his body ;-) .. yes we're both wrong but if he didn't put it out there then I wouldn't be going after him. If a man chooses to cheat on his wife I'm not going to stop him!
Hey enjoy destroying it, then watching it come back to haunt you for a very long time.

Oh, and should he have kids? Yeah, this is the best decision you've ever made your life.

Anyhow, reading this thread has given me more light on how much better of a person I am than a lot of scumbags that roam the world. I couldn't be more proud of myself with the decisions I've made throughout my lifetime.
 
Old 02-05-2012, 10:35 PM
 
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What about his wife? She will most likely be very hurt and in the long run you will never find true happiness at the expense of another!
She doesn't know anything .. I'm not trying to find happiness I am happy and like I said before .. who is to say she's not doing the same thing while he's away? Their marriage isn't perfect .. so who knows if she would even notice if he did act differently or if she cared? Everyone is so concerned about the wife ..what about the husband .. he's unhappy in his marriage but afraid to get a divorce afraid of the change or whatever it may be ... shouldn't everyone be happy?
 
Old 02-05-2012, 10:37 PM
 
Location: The front porch outside of the Astral Plane
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oh, but it's about to be his body ;-) .. yes we're both wrong but if he didn't put it out there then I wouldn't be going after him. If a man chooses to cheat on his wife I'm not going to stop him!

Ok, one more post I can't help myself, I am COMPELLED to comment on this one...........


AND YOU HAVE THE GALL TO WONDER WHY PEOPLE THINK YOU ARE SLEAZY???????????
 
Old 02-05-2012, 10:39 PM
 
Location: Utah
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Also he works from 'out of town'? You don't even know what this old guy does for a living and yet you are willing to spread your legs for him? Don't just take his word for what he does make sure you know who he is, what he does, where he lives ect. What are you gonna do if you get knocked up? He obviously isn't going to risk his marriage or he would be divorced already and when he sees you balloon up do you really think he is going to want to touch you? Not a chance! He's gonna claim he never met you and that there is no way he could be the father. After all you don't know him and if your willing to sleep with a man you met at a hotel then who knows where you have been right?

I'm not judging you but the reality is that if you really are gonna do this then you need to wise up and quick or you are going to get yourself screwed in more way than one!
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