What do you women want me to say? (how to, attracted, kissing)
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Well, this just happened to me. I thought the date was going well: he was incredibly flirty, attentive, sweet, funny, wanted to know all about me. We seemed to have a lot in common, and I thought for sure that we had hit it off (During the date, I was thinking of the things we could do together because we had so much in common). I was really excited to have met someone who I had so much in common with and who was so much fun. He didn't tell me he was going to call, but I thought for sure he would. (Not to sounds snotty, but I can't tell you the last time a guy didn't call me for at least a second date, even after dates that seemed disastrous.) Then NOTHING. I was shocked. I was actually really excited about him. Had he said he'd call, then I would've been more upset, but the truth is that I guess he didn't owe me anything. I just found it odd that he was seemingly so enthusiastic over our meeting that he didn't call. So, I guess I'd tell you not to give false hope. If you're not interested, don't act overly friendly or flirty and do not call.
Ladies, you are on a first date with a guy, you are really into him, and you think the date is going great, you are laughing, smiling, lightly flirting, over all having a great time...
I as a male have been on many first dates like this, when I just don't see a future with her mentally, physically I'm attracted to her, but the more I talk to her on the date, the less attractive she becomes to me. I've heard of guys being rude and just walking off or ending the date abruptly, or just being unteresting or cold... But I figure why act like that especially if I know she's really into me, plus whe are already out, so why not, smile, laugh, joke, and have a good time and but at the sametime I don't want to lead her on
So my question to the ladies is what do you want us guys to do? I know everyone hates -male or female- when someone you thought you had a great time with just doesn't call you after the first date. Should I explain it to them after the first date face to face? What should I say? Would women perfer if I said, we could still be good friends if you wanted?
Also, another question is what do you say when a girl you aren't attracted to physically asks you out (she knows you are single or I could just say I have a girl), the thing is, should I just be direct and say I'm not attracted to you? I know that in the past by trying to spare her feelings and not just say no I'm not into you, they just keep coming back or If I just say no, they always ask why? I'm friendly and fun toward everyone, but many women have in the past taken it as me liking them personally, not noticing that I act that way toward everyone, male or female
What's wrong with just making a friend?
So you're on a first date and instantly sizing her up for potential long term relationship material? How can you get an accurate picture of someone on a first date anyhow?
So you're on a first date and instantly sizing her up for potential long term relationship material? How can you get an accurate picture of someone on a first date anyhow?
I date with the purpose of finding a long-term girlfriend and eventually wife, but that's me, so if that's not your style in dating, I understand. There is no right or wrong way, it's what is your goal.
Your second question isn't easy to answer, sometimes you can, sometimes you can't? Every date is different. Every person is different. My question was in general... for example if someone cripple was sitting at the table next to us, and your date started making fun of them for being cripple... for me that is a turn off LuckyGem, so no we wouldn't have a future...
Again, that's just my style and purpose in dating, you may only want something short-term or just physical, so maybe you can see yourself tolerating that in the short run to get what you want from them..
Last edited by qwy; 02-06-2012 at 06:50 PM..
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If you are old enough to date, you are old enough to be truthful with the people you choose to connect with. If you can't be honest enough to say, "nice to have met you, but sorry to say, this doesn't feel like a good fit for me..."
then you need to stay home and leave dating to the grownups.
wow, seriously? encouraging bad behavior and deceipt?
Sorry for the off-topicness and not to be a spelling nazi, but reading "deceipt" made me seriously LOL.
Anyways, yes, finish the date. Don't just get up and leave... then just say the date was fun, we'd probably be good friends, but I don't think we're romantically compatible.
If you are old enough to date, you are old enough to be truthful with the people you choose to connect with. If you can't be honest enough to say, "nice to have met you, but sorry to say, this doesn't feel like a good fit for me..."
then you need to stay home and leave dating to the grownups.
A lot of people who are dating aren't grownups then.
To the girl that asked you out and you are not intersted, how about, "wow I am flattered, but no thank you".
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