Women: What if a man wanted to test all of his children at birth for paternity as a general policy? (single, dance)

[Mikala43]

Originally Posted by FlyiMetro

This is exactly my take, which I didnt understand the OP making the comment of asking the womans permission, which is very unmanly. Just take the child, test the child and get the results. Once you have the results you make the grown man move from there. This whole nonsense about "if he test our child im leaving him" where does this selfish arrogance come from in todays society?? Who cares if you leave? Why do you all have such big egos, when that is a masculine trait. Women becoming men? Men becoming Women, by asking permission? Permission? Men dont freaking ask for permission. MEN DO WHAT THEY WANT! If she gets in the way run her over. Im so glad I have a good girlfriend, because her parents are still married and so are mine. These new school manly women are....really out here, and you MEN who co sign this feminist garbage are also apart of the problem. Stop being girly fellas. You are a man, Be a MAN.

Maybe this is the case in the Jerry Springer world, but not for most mature, responsible relationships.

What kind of stable relationship involves either party fooling around, or being accused of fooling around?

If you feel a need to test for paternity, have such distrust in someone you chose to marry.... than the whole relationship is a sham.

So should the woman insist upon a lie detector test once a month? No thanks, I'll pass. I won't marry a person I feel I have to do that to. Could I end up deceived? Yes. I trusted my husband and ex-SO unequivically, and they felt the same. That type of trust is not given lightly, it comes from genuinely knowing the person.

[virgode]

Originally Posted by Doll Eyes

I think they treats all the women like c*m dumpsters...they don't seem to want anything not the child not the woman just the sex. Anything else after the fact is HER problem not theirs. I said this before too: they will pull any trick out of the bag to get out of paying for a child. I'm glad I will never be in a situation with pregnancy b/c none of it sounds very pleasant. Bunch of finger pointing.

Your going to read the worst possible scenarios on the forum and not depictive of all relationships and marriages.

We aren't all a Maury Povich episode 'whose the baby daddy'.

[Doll Eyes]

Originally Posted by emerald_octane

Yeah.

Too bad the courts don't allow absolve a nonbiological parent of responsibility after they find out the false paternity.

Which is a pretty big freaking deal.

OH Wait! I thought you guys (not you personally) said earlier in this thread, you wouldn't ditch a child if you found out it wasn't yours & had been taking care of it, because you're soooo upstanding and all that crap. Even if the courts don't absolve it legally, pretty sure he's going to hit the road regardless (because that's how they roll). They can mail a check from anywhere...

Good nite though, I am going to bed.

[Doll Eyes]

Originally Posted by virgode

Your going to read the worst possible scenarios on the forum and not depictive of all relationships and marriages.

We aren't all a Maury Povich episode 'whose the baby daddy'.

Well it look to me like that's how it goes with most of them, what you see here.

[Eddie Felson]

Originally Posted by Braunwyn

Of course you should check. What's important to keep in mind is the caliber of women you guys are capable of getting. Neither of you should trust each other and that's surely with good reason.

with the hookup cuture we have today it's a good idea for a man to get a dna test done if he's not married to the woman and/or she has a questionable past. my friends gf was pregnant and had to get 9 guys tested (she's a bartender), had he been married to her (and not known how slooty she is) he would be screwed. how many cheating wives are gonna tell hubby they're pregnant but the baby might not be his? i know, i know, some guys cheat too but they can't trick you into raising another woman's child so i feel it's justifiable. if the kid aint mine at least i can walk away guilt free.

[Braunwyn]

Originally Posted by FlyiMetro

WOW..Evil on so many levels. This is a very educational thread.

The term education should be isolated here. Clearly the subtleties fly right over your head. I think that plays into the topic as well.

[FlyiMetro]

Originally Posted by Braunwyn

The say is the choice a woman makes when she chooses a man. Many women simply pass on the typical guy addressed in this thread.

Men have the choice and desire to know the truth. It is their RIGHT to know.

[emerald_octane]

wow evil and mean!

Originally Posted by FlyiMetro

Men have the choice and desire to know the truth. It is their RIGHT to know.

No they don't. Didn't you hear? If you think you have rights then you're a womanizer (if this thread is any indication).

[Braunwyn]

Originally Posted by Eddie Felson

with the hookup cuture we have today it's a good idea for a man to get a dna test done if he's not married to the woman and/or she has a questionable past. my friends gf was pregnant and had to get 9 guys tested (she's a bartender), had he been married to her (and not known how slooty she is) he would be screwed. how many cheating wives are gonna tell hubby they're pregnant but the baby might not be his? i know, i know, some guys cheat too but they can't trick you into raising another woman's child so i feel it's justifiable. if the kid aint mine at least i can walk away guilt free.

I think it's probably an appropriate decision for the culture you note. As I mentioned earlier, it's short sighted to assume that the planet begins and ends with this cultural subset.

[Braunwyn]

Originally Posted by FlyiMetro

Men have the choice and desire to know the truth. It is their RIGHT to know.

When it comes to your women perhaps your right. I'm not arguing that.