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Originally Posted by Eddie Felson
i would rather be raped than raise a child for several years only to find out it isn't mine. it's not only the years and money invested but you also know your without a doubt your wife/gf never really loved you and if you find out too late you might not be able to start a real family. finding out right away wouldn't be so bad as long as you could leave free and clear, but after years of betrayal it would be soul-crushing. this IS the worst thing a woman can do to a man.
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Come back to us when you have been raped. This has to be one of the most ridiculous statement I have ever seen on what is let's face it a forum with some pretty ridiculous threads.
If you can't even see how offensive your post is then quite frankly you are so clueless as to be lost to the world of reason and logic. And I say this as someone who has always considered cheating a cardinal sin and would consider a cheat to be scum of the earth.
But rape is in a different category . A rapist is far worse than a cheat.
Many women ( and men most likely) on this forum will have been sexually abused or raped and you have basically demeaned , dismissed and diminished their agony and their devastation and reduced it to a little facile soundbite.
Well done. Comparing rape to having to raise a child you love but does not turn out to be yours is insensitive , churlish and utterly intellectually disingenuous.
You might be utterly devasted and hate the woman who deceived you but you still have something positive to hold on to. A child you raised, loved and cherished. Hopefully though I suspect you might not be capable of much love if your idiotic posts are anything to go by.
Unless you are one of those shallow jerks who would stop loving your child simply because he was not yours despite years of caring and shared memories, affection, etc... Your wife might be a "****" but at least you have a child who loves you and looks at you as his Father. DNA does not a parent make, but love, care, worry, affection, long hours spent together, shared memories, playing, teaching, being there at their special life events, their bedside when they are sick etc...
Tell me any positive in being raped ? Just one thing. No matter how small. I dare you.
Being cheated on IMO is unforgiveable and destroying, damaging,but it does not even begin to compare to being raped. Cheats to me are low down cowards and weaklings , thoughtless, selfish and cruel . Not arguing with you on that.
But I would rather be cheated on by my Husband and have to go through that agony and pain, hatred , anger and devastation , than to be raped.
Many rape victims would have rather been murdered just to point out exactly how it affects you not only physically but psychologically, and emotionally.
Grow up and learn to think before you speak. And don't believe everything you think. If thinking has anything to do with what you are doing.