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for the kids
as much as our relativistic and hedonistic society likes to tell you that marriage is just about love
it isnt
the above fact largely accounts for divorce rate in america as well
That can be achieved without being married. Much less complicated too if the relationship doesn't work out. No nasty court battles, no alimony, no dividing up the assets, nada. Sin mierda.
Cohabitation is the way to go.
You're kidding right? When cohabiting non-married couples separate, they still have to divide up assets and it can be just as bitter. Except now there's no legal documents to protect either partner.
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Originally Posted by Rabbitluvr
Sorry, but that's simply anecdotal, especially in a society with a 50% rate of divorce. Perhaps YOUR marriage is a happy one and if so then congrats all the way. But let's not paint with too broad a brush here, alright?
The divorce rate is closer to 1/3, so no need to cast such a gloomy outlook on marriage.
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Originally Posted by Tell-the-Truth
Having read several threads, I think I've pretty much gaged the prevailing attitude towards marriage in this forum and I'm going to therefore assume with at least half???....a third???....of the human population
Ok, forget that. I'm not trying to beat a dead horse but my bat is in hand.....
What say you as to the point/purpose of marriage? (If it's not due to any "religious conviction.") Based upon the opinions I'm reading it's best a lot of people keep their misery..........to themselves??
First off, I don't use this or any forum as a yardstick to guage anything as important as the decision to marry or not. Two, if you have to ask (the bolded), none. There is no point to it if you have to ask. Save it for people who don't have to ask, who are sure it's what they want. To them, there's a point and that's all they need to know.
You're kidding right? When cohabiting non-married couples separate, they still have to divide up assets and it can be just as bitter. Except now there's no legal documents to protect either partner.
The divorce rate is closer to 1/3, so no need to cast such a gloomy outlook on marriage.
No I am not kidding. In a cohabitation scenario, she takes her stuff and I take my stuff. No her taking anything of mine and vice-versa. See, marriage is a LEGAL contract as well which means in a divorce things are not so cut and dry. The courts get to decide and it usually ain't too purty for those of the male persuasion. Don't believe it? Ask those men who've been taken to the cleaners by their wives.
I know this crazy lady who I think lives on the street. Her where-a-bouts are unknown. We only pick her up in an undisclosed location when she needs a ride.
Anyways~my point is this lady wanted to get married so bad. She had the notion that "marriage" would fix all her problems.
One day while giving her a ride she made the comment, "If I just had a husband with a paycheck everything would be great."
My thoughts were, "If you were medicated and were happy from the get~go you would be great!"
Her idea...which is common with many, is that marriage is the antidote to unhappiness. So when they do get married they find that all their hopes and dreams were dashed to peices and now they are recentful to their spouse for not having fulfilled their expectations.
Once you spend years knowing yourself then you will be able to offer it to others in a positive light. You cannot make up a character and then present it to someone like, "You like this type of person right?? Here I am...I am just like that!!" That too is deceitful and false. Once you mate finds out you are not like that person you presented they are going to feel tricked and lied to.
It's best you know yourself and present it as such. Don't make up a personality or character that will appeal to someone. That is not you and you know it. If you don't like something then make it known. Be honest and upfront with who you are. That will be your best shot at a successful relationship!
No I am not kidding. In a cohabitation scenario, she takes her stuff and I take my stuff. No her taking anything of mine and vice-versa. See, marriage is a LEGAL contract as well which means in a divorce things are not so cut and dry. The courts get to decide and it usually ain't too purty for those of the male persuasion. Don't believe it? Ask those men who've been taken to the cleaners by their wives.
To quote you: Sorry, but that's simply anecdotal.
Just because in your scenario, you may take your individual things only...doesn't mean that applies for the many non-married couples who fight over assets and still end up going to court.
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