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The more you have this kind of thinking, the more desperate you look and act, which will in turn make you less attractive to women, cutting your chances down even more.
Stop worry about finding someone and enjoy your life, have fun and just be proud of what you're doing, then women will come. If you can't get any girls, look at yourself and ask yourself what you're doing wrong with your life.
I totally agree here.
You seem very focused on sex (or lack of) and women and getting a girl (or lack of getting a girl). You need to focus on something other than that.
Get a hobby, go out and live your life and focus on something different and THEN the girls might notice you. If they don't, look inward and make a few more adjustments.
....that they will have more cumulative orgasms in their lives by themselves than they ever will with a girl/woman?
I feel that way sometimes & it just really, really weighs my heart down with sadness. It's less of a problem for many other guys, I guess, but it's especially a problem for me, since I'm almost 25 & I've never had a girlfriend.
Does anyone ever feel this way? Or have you ever felt that way? I guess the best solution is to actually get a girlfriend/wife/whatever.
Sigh. I wish this part of life was easier than it is.
Quit feeling sorry for yourself. I'm almost 25 and have never had a girlfriend either. I've been reading your posts for a while, and honestly, I don't think you love yourself. Why don't you work on Soviet before you work on getting a girlfriend?
OP, your lack orgasms and/or a girlfriend is your problem/fault and yours alone. If you haven't gotten someone else to do it for you, perhaps you should get an honest opinion from someone (female friend) about what could be improved. Remember my comment in your "desperation" thread- "read these as if you're a random girl (who doesn't know anyone about you) and tell me: would you date yourself?" You ask these questions with fair frequency, and that's fine, but it seems that you do not APPLY the advice given to you (or at least don't update us about it.)
I hate to sound harsh, but you need it- you can't be asking this stuff all the time on an internet forum and expecting people to sympathize with you if you're not going to fix it yourself.
As for the orgasms thing, get an escort or use your weak hand in when you're in the shower. ("stranger in the tub." There ya go.
....that they will have more cumulative orgasms in their lives by themselves than they ever will with a girl/woman?
I feel that way sometimes & it just really, really weighs my heart down with sadness. It's less of a problem for many other guys, I guess, but it's especially a problem for me, since I'm almost 25 & I've never had a girlfriend.
Does anyone ever feel this way? Or have you ever felt that way? I guess the best solution is to actually get a girlfriend/wife/whatever.
Sigh. I wish this part of life was easier than it is.
True, although she may not always be in the mood. I don't really keep track or think about it before, its probably 50/50 in my case overall. As Sinatra said, "whatever gets you through the night"
You seem very focused on sex (or lack of) and women and getting a girl (or lack of getting a girl). You need to focus on something other than that.
That's great advice......but it'll only work for a day or so. Then you start thinking about women, girls and your lack of thereof, and you're right back to Square One.
For the OP: if you're 25 and never had a GF or sex, these are the things you should do (or already should have done):
1. Get into extremely good physically shape. No excess fat. Lift weights, do cardio, get into killer shape.
2. Good grooming. Dress reasonably well.
I am a success story of these two things. I lost 45 pounds (I'm not ripped by any means) and the attention I get is ridiculous. Secondly, you can still "be yourself" and dress/groom well.
Have you ever heard the saying 'When you stop looking that is when you find someone?' You are 25 and if you sit in your room all day/night you are never going to find anyone.
There are more women than men, you just need to get out and mingle there is someone for everyone. Smile and be happy that is a turn on for every woman
I believe you have to look at yourself objectively and truly see the package you are offering. Once you do this, you tweak yourself to be the best possible you. That might mean losing weight, taking classes, getting a haircut, working out, getting a better job, being more positive, etc. When you are as good as you can be you need to realize that, for the most part, the woman you will attract will be your equivalent ie in your realm. You might have to adjust your expectations and become more realistic about the women you will attract. Next you need to get on with your life and do things that bring you joy and fulfillment. Go out and have fun. Take the vacations you've always dreamed about, do the activities you enjoy, and quit focusing on finding someone. When your best self is out there having fun you will attract women. Talk to these women even if you don't consider them date worthy. You'll be surprised at how many people you'll meet and you'll be honing your social skills and gaining friends at the same time. It's going to be okay. You can do this. There are lots of nice women out there looking for a nice guy, you just need to meet them. Best wishes.
Great advice x2
improve physical appearance & workout
get serious about grooming and maintenance of your body
draw confidence from physical workout changes
land female....
in between, pick up some healthy new hobbies that maybe a female can enjoy with you or that you can meet a female doing
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