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Everyone in life gets rejected at one point or another. Even incredibly privileged people like Prince William or Brad Pitt have been rejected on various levels many times in their lives. It's unavoidable in life. Once you accept that, deal with it as every other reasonably mature adult learns to do. What is so agonizing about asking someone out and they decline? Even if they are rude as hell about it, it's that earth-shattering to you?
Put it into perspective. What is worse from the following two scenarios?
1. You approach someone you have a crush on. You ask them to dinner. They look at you with contempt and snarl, "I wouldn't date you if you were the last person on earth. You disgust me!"
2. You find a black mole on your back and go to the Dr. He says, "You have malignant melanoma and it's advanced. You have 4 weeks to live. Get your affairs in order."
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Originally Posted by Ulysses61
Everyone in life gets rejected at one point or another. Even incredibly privileged people like Prince William or Brad Pitt have been rejected on various levels many times in their lives. It's unavoidable in life. Once you accept that, deal with it as every other reasonably mature adult learns to do. What is so agonizing about asking someone out and they decline? Even if they are rude as hell about it, it's that earth-shattering to you?
Put it into perspective. What is worse from the following two scenarios?
1. You approach someone you have a crush on. You ask them to dinner. They look at you with contempt and snarl, "I wouldn't date you if you were the last person on earth. You disgust me!"
2. You find a black mole on your back and go to the Dr. He says, "You have malignant melanoma and it's advanced. You have 4 weeks to live. Get your affairs in order."
Rejection is a blow to your ego. You might recover after a few days, a few months. If you're mentally sane, you should have recovered within a year.
Letting fear of rejection stop you from even TRYING means you will be lonely for the rest of your life and die lonely.
The good news: You can get over a crush
the bad news: It takes a little time. I've had three crushes in two years. First they were enjoyable, then I became annoyed that my affection was not reciprocated, and finally my ego said, "Who needs this, or him? Any man would be blessed to to have an awesome woman like me...so... Next!"
I developed an incredible crush on a co-worker and for reasons I can not go into, I know there is no chance of me ever being able to act upon it and approach her. I feel for starters she is way above me in her league. It is difficult enough at work to keep at my job and its responsibilities already. I get very few chances to see her during the day. Usually it is at the employee lounge or if we cross paths in the back office. There is too much close-knittedness to our company and it would be the death spiral for me if others got wind of my interest in her and embarked upon the gossip route. My heart aches but I know intellectually I have to let this go. I have gotten as crazy as to look at her facebook page and I feel like I am snooping into her life and that is not how I want to be. I would just want her to know I think she is most beautiful women I have ever seen but there is no way of doing that without coming across as a creep. How does one get over a crush?
Funny thing is, you haven't even given her a chance to reject you!
Guess she doesn't need to, you've already done it for yourself
If he says that he's probably reading her signals wrong, and is sure she's not interested, chances are she's really not interested.
I don't really know how people develop such strong interest in people who they don't really know and/or haven't demonstrated any reciprocal interest. That sounds very grade schoolish to me.
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