First date- check comes, and he looks at me?! (dating, woman, young)

[CSD610]

Originally Posted by oalquimista

I meant those going on MULTIPLE dates per week/month. Maybe you're a McDonald's guy though

Actually I hate McDonald's and I am not a guy but I personally would never consider looking for a man electronically either. It has been rumored that I am just an old fashioned girl and I like it like that.

[oalquimista]

Originally Posted by Raging-Hetero

1. Who did the inviting?

2. Perhaps you should have offered to pay for him too. That would have been nice.

When a man invites a lady, she shouldn't pay for him, not in the beginning. Also, I left money for his cheap 1.00 tip for a fabulous waitress.

[Prince_Frog]

Originally Posted by mir86

oh I know its not cheap..but I just don't know if I should even offer anymore because so many have been offended in the past so I keep quiet and thank them.

Where I live, the waitresses will come up to the table and ask if it's the same check or separate, and every time they ask that and I'm on a date, I speak up immediately and say same check. That way she knows I'm paying for the meal.

[oalquimista]

Originally Posted by Raging-Hetero

Maybe he wasn't impressed with the service or he doesn't really believe in tipping.

I personally don't tip unless the service is impressive.

Doesn't believe in tipping?! You've got to be kidding. She practically wiped his face after every bite.

I'm sure you've never waited on people before, otherwise you'd have a different view. Or, maybe not

[oalquimista]

Originally Posted by Prince_Frog

Where I live, the waitresses will come up to the table and ask if it's the same check or separate, and every time they ask that and I'm on a date, I speak up immediately and say same check. That way she knows I'm paying for the meal.

Very kind of you. I hope they thank you for doing that.

[Serena Sattar]

Originally Posted by oalquimista

Doesn't believe in tipping?! You've got to be kidding. She practically wiped his face after every bite.

I'm sure you've never waited on people before, otherwise you'd have a different view. Or, maybe not

I think the cook deserves more tips than the waitress.

[Prince_Frog]

Originally Posted by oalquimista

Very kind of you. I hope they thank you for doing that.

Never have. A lot of women are spoiled and I've dated many of them in this way.

[phoenix_down]

Originally Posted by mir86

true but I've been conditioned to not even offer because men get offended if I do so I haven't even offered in years! does that make me selfish? I'm a poor college kid..and I might even continue to be poor after I'm done for a few years after. Besides..the man in the OP raved about how much money he has..not like he's poor like what you're describing.

What!? Do offer to pay! I always say to the girl, "No I insist, but I love the fact that you offered" Whether she makes the offer is a big thing for me personally.

Originally Posted by oalquimista

I meant those going on MULTIPLE dates per week/month.

Yeah that stuff gets expensive! Cost of admission I guess.

[mir86]

Originally Posted by Prince_Frog

Where I live, the waitresses will come up to the table and ask if it's the same check or separate, and every time they ask that and I'm on a date, I speak up immediately and say same check. That way she knows I'm paying for the meal.

That's usually what my dates do too. I definitely greatly appreciate it! so even if I wanted to offer, I don't have a chance to!

[Raging-Hetero]

Originally Posted by oalquimista

When a man invites a lady, she shouldn't pay for him, not in the beginning. Also, I let money for his cheap 1.00 tip for a fabulous waitress.

Fair Enough.