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Old 02-15-2012, 12:17 PM
 
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if you don't like the idea of him accepting your offer, then don't offer. How is that NOT manipulative?
I agree. It's like some sort of test. I never offer if I have no intention of actually paying my own way. Sometimes, however, I offer to pitch in for the tip. Whether they take me up on that doesn't really matter to me.
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Old 02-15-2012, 12:20 PM
 
Location: Wherever women are
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And people mostly frequent a dining place once in a month? So they think they are socially championing the cause of the waiters and leave a handsome tip, which is understandable. It seems like a trip to the Pyrenees.

But for a heavy hitter like me, it gets old.
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Old 02-15-2012, 12:22 PM
 
Location: southern california
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dating people with kids is very different. their range of expectations is based on somebody else who isnt there anymore. they are expecting u to fill in or more.
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Old 02-15-2012, 01:05 PM
 
Location: 39 20' 59"N / 75 30' 53"W
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I eat out a lot. A random grilled chicken plate is like 9 bucks and I'm expected to tip the imbecile a couple bucks, and by the 8th or 9th time, I'm like... why do you even deserve it?

It's natural human tendency. All he does is go in and carry food out. If they called my name like in Panera, I'll bloody well bring the plate out myself.
Well, I quess I was wrong not taking your other posts seriously.

Tip, trust me the money will circulate back to you in one way or another.
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Old 02-15-2012, 01:06 PM
 
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Yes, yes I do! And it seems like men now want to have their cake and eat it, too. They don't want to even pay for the date AND they expect to still get "nookie".

I am VERY good to the men in my life, VERY GOOD. I believe in traditional male/female roles in my personal life and that includes the man paying for dates, etc.
I've heard of this happening too many times...the same men who use "equality" as an excuse to get out of paying for a date will then still try to be all grabby as if they feel that their date is obligated to him even when she did pay.

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Old 02-15-2012, 01:10 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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I eat out a lot. A random grilled chicken plate is like 9 bucks and I'm expected to tip the imbecile a couple bucks, and by the 8th or 9th time, I'm like... why do you even deserve it?

It's natural human tendency. All he does is go in and carry food out. If they called my name like in Panera, I'll bloody well bring the plate out myself.
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And people mostly frequent a dining place once in a month? So they think they are socially championing the cause of the waiters and leave a handsome tip, which is understandable. It seems like a trip to the Pyrenees.

But for a heavy hitter like me, it gets old.
Totally. I take the train a lot. My husband takes it almost every day. So I don't pay anymore. I understand that some people only take the train once in a blue moon so I see why they still pay. But I don't. When I lived in the city - I ate out 3-5 times a week. I would just go into the kitchen and make my own food. I mean seriously - nobody deserves my money except for me.
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Old 02-15-2012, 01:14 PM
 
Location: Wherever women are
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Well, I quess I was wrong not take your other posts seriously.

Tip, trust me the money will circulate back to you in one way or another.
I think the cycle has turned, Virgode. Good crocodile is back on.

Becoz I just realized something... this whole thread I have been describing my antics on 1/9 "lone restaurant time" occurrences where I grudgingly walk out without a tip, coz it's okay to do so, only for a sense of fiscal restraint.

I just recalled. I've never even gone dutch with any woman. And in all dates, I tipped too well. I still continue to pick up the whole tab and tip well on date nights.

I get easily irritated when others try to dictate how a man should spend his money coz it gives me a sense of loss of self control and personal authority with a man's wallet. She is welcome to observe what I do with my money, but absolutely no business forming an opinion on how I spread cash on a 2 hour time slice of my entire life.
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Old 02-15-2012, 01:15 PM
 
Location: 39 20' 59"N / 75 30' 53"W
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Totally. I take the train a lot. My husband takes it almost every day. So I don't pay anymore. I understand that some people only take the train once in a blue moon so I see why they still pay. But I don't. When I lived in the city - I ate out 3-5 times a week. I would just go into the kitchen and make my own food. I mean seriously - nobody deserves my money except for me.
Are you serious, did I miss something
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Old 02-15-2012, 01:15 PM
 
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totally. I take the train a lot. My husband takes it almost every day. So i don't pay anymore. I understand that some people only take the train once in a blue moon so i see why they still pay. But i don't. When i lived in the city - i ate out 3-5 times a week. I would just go into the kitchen and make my own food. I mean seriously - nobody deserves my money except for me.

snap!!
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Old 02-15-2012, 01:23 PM
 
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Amen. I would never date a guy again who agreed/suggested dutch at all, ever. I'm old fashioned that way.
Are you old fashioned when it comes to house chores? That is, house chores being your job as a woman.

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If that's the case...should the woman give up sex the first night and "come correct?"

Is it wrong for a man to demand sex after a date, the same way that a woman demands that a man pay for her meal? Is that appropriate etiquette?

If not, what demands can a man make on a date? Or should should he just be grateful to be allowed to bask in her presence? lol
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