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Old 02-15-2012, 03:24 PM
 
Location: Where Dance Music comes first
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LOL, That's 21st century feminism.
Being a feminist has nothing to do with being an entitled brat.
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Old 02-15-2012, 03:32 PM
 
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Being a feminist has nothing to do with being an entitled brat.
Agreed.
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Old 02-15-2012, 03:36 PM
 
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when has a server ever demanded a tip from you? we're talking hypothetically about the ethics of the situation here. no one is hounding you down for cash.
not at restaurants, but at local massage parlors in my area, there have been numerous reports of masseuses chasing down patrons to their cars to demand a tip. true story.
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Old 02-15-2012, 03:50 PM
 
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It's fine and dandy for women to say "whomever asks, pays", and that's a fine rule to live by, but women don't ask. That's the problem. Even threads on this forum, most women will not ask a guy out, period. So, that saying is a major cop out, cause you won't put yourself out there and ask a guy out. Another one of those 21st century old fashioned dating ideas.
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Old 02-15-2012, 04:19 PM
 
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Just because a guy pays for the first date or even the first few dates doesn't mean his is pampering her like a princess, taking her to expensive restaurants and showering her with gifts. If I'm not mistaken - this thread is about the first date - correct? I'm not sure why you are bringing up all this other stuff. Most men I know don't do those types of things anyway - certainly not any of the guys I've dated! I always offer to pay - always have - no matter who I'm with. And I dated great guys when I dated - but I was never treated like a princess. I never wanted to be nor do I think I would have felt comfortable with it. A relationship, to me, is not about how many gifts a guy can buy me - it's about how compatible we are with each other. Do we have the same sense of humor? Do we view life the same way? Are we both homebodies? I never wanted a guy who was going to shower me with expensive gifts. I want someone to share life's journey with me - not worship me.

However, a guy picking up the tab on a first date even though I offer to pay is a good way to start things off in my book. Like I said - I don't see anything wrong with going dutch - but I do like a man who is a gentleman. I married one and I wouldn't have it any other way.
Same here!
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Old 02-15-2012, 04:27 PM
 
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You're my hero

I'd like to take a leaf out of your book and leave a few coins at my next restaurant. I have to be in the right mood for it. I'll leave a couple quarters. Waiter can use it for laundry or something. You know it's one of my biggest pet peeves I'm always a couple quarters short when I want to laundry and I need to drive to the nearest coin place.
Back in my stripping days, I occasionally saw men who left a few quarters at the edge of the stage for tips. I feel like I've seen everything.
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Old 02-15-2012, 04:34 PM
 
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I went on a date with a man I met on match. He talked the whole time, which I was going to chalk up to nerves, he's a federal officer, divorced with kids. I have three rules when I date, no kids, no cops and no ex wives. Well, needless to say, he broke all the rules..
Probably inconsequential at this stage, but a job description of "federal officer" is not a "cop" or a law enforcement position at all. He is more likely in the role of compliance or regulation specialist. Probably used the "officer" title because he thought it was impresive (i.e. - he's worse then a cop - he's a poser).
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Old 02-15-2012, 05:28 PM
 
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Being a feminist has nothing to do with being an entitled brat.
You Sir, are a wise man
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Old 02-15-2012, 05:31 PM
 
Location: Florida
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Probably inconsequential at this stage, but a job description of "federal officer" is not a "cop" or a law enforcement position at all. He is more likely in the role of compliance or regulation specialist. Probably used the "officer" title because he thought it was impresive (i.e. - he's worse then a cop - he's a poser).
Not neccesarily. Not every federal law enforcement agency is investigative.

Especially in the DC area there are a lot of federal police departments, that look similar to a state or local one. Those employees are referred to as officers, not agents.
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Old 02-15-2012, 05:38 PM
 
Location: Florida
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Why are people comparing dinner to sex as some sort of swap? WTF?!
I cannot even imagine what kind of man equates buying dinner to being owed ANYTHING, much less an intimate, physical experience.

For the losers who think this way - hire yourself a pro and don't go around bothering women with your revolting ideas.

Gross!!!!!
A first date is a first date. Take it or leave it so to say , therefore I don't expect anything out of them.

Subsequent dates are a different matter.

I won't go so far as some of these posters who say they expect sex, but if I'm footing the bill for her all the time there needs to be some sort of reciprication beyond "enjoying her company". I can enjoy her company without paying her way every time as a friend.

Now that doesn't need to be sexual, but it does need to be something beyond friend zone to let me know I'm not going down a one way street.
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