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02-15-2012, 05:40 PM
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Location: Katonah, NY
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Originally Posted by KidArizona
"opposites attract" supposedly?
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Yes - there are certain ways in which opposites sometimes attract. I'm more passionate while my husband is more practical. I'm more of an extrovert while my husband is more of an introvert. Those kinds of opposites can coexist harmoniously. However, one person wanting children and the other person not wanting children or one person wanting a house in the country while the other person wants a tiny apartment in the city - these are not opposites that can exist harmoniously. |
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02-15-2012, 05:45 PM
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Location: MA/NH
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Originally Posted by tattoo_dreams
Finding a future somebody is difficult and those words always ring in one's head, "can I spend the rest of my life with this person?"
Which would you choose
A. you have a lot in common with this person and enjoy each others company without a lot of friction and pointless arguments. Have similar personalities, but this person doesn't know what they want to do with their life in terms of work and have not started a career yet or college and is currently not working, but is working on it.
B. you have very little in common and you disagree on major stuff like kids, buying a home and where to live. this person is not crazy about kids but you are. they got a career, the education already and makes good money.
wich would you choose?
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No choice option for neither of them? But definitely not B. With A, I would not commit to an engagement, let alone marriage with someone that hasn't figured out what their career or longterm life goals are yet. |
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02-15-2012, 05:53 PM
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Originally Posted by tattoo_dreams
Finding a future somebody is difficult and those words always ring in one's head, "can I spend the rest of my life with this person?"
Which would you choose
A. you have a lot in common with this person and enjoy each others company without a lot of friction and pointless arguments. Have similar personalities, but this person doesn't know what they want to do with their life in terms of work and have not started a career yet or college and is currently not working, but is working on it.
B. you have very little in common and you disagree on major stuff like kids, buying a home and where to live. this person is not crazy about kids but you are. they got a career, the education already and makes good money.
wich would you choose?
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Neither. I'd rather wait.
What's the rush?  |
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02-15-2012, 08:00 PM
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I wouldn't pick either choices. I need someone with similar interest, goals, and motivation as me.
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02-15-2012, 08:02 PM
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Location: Lower east side of Toronto
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My advise is expect nothing and enjoy each others company - better take advantage of the comfort that the opposite sex brings- while you are still young - once you are older - you will wish that you were young...when sweet company was more abundant...I* guess what I am saying is - enjoy life..you only get one.
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02-15-2012, 08:07 PM
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Location: Middle of the valley
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Originally Posted by Oleg Bach
My advise is expect nothing and enjoy each others company - better take advantage of the comfort that the opposite sex brings- while you are still young - once you are older - you will wish that you were young...when sweet company was more abundant...I* guess what I am saying is - enjoy life..you only get one.
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You've got to be kidding?!!
What is older? Heck, I'm 45 and there is no shortage of men.
Yes, enjoy your life! Don't choose between two bad options. Choose one that is RIGHT for you. |
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02-15-2012, 11:15 PM
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Location: USA
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Originally Posted by tattoo_dreams
Finding a future somebody is difficult and those words always ring in one's head, "can I spend the rest of my life with this person?"
Which would you choose
A. you have a lot in common with this person and enjoy each others company without a lot of friction and pointless arguments. Have similar personalities, but this person doesn't know what they want to do with their life in terms of work and have not started a career yet or college and is currently not working, but is working on it.
B. you have very little in common and you disagree on major stuff like kids, buying a home and where to live. this person is not crazy about kids but you are. they got a career, the education already and makes good money.
wich would you choose?
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If those are the only options, then A is better than a bad life spent in constant friction with B |
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02-15-2012, 11:42 PM
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Location: Up above the world so high!
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Originally Posted by tattoo_dreams
Finding a future somebody is difficult and those words always ring in one's head, "can I spend the rest of my life with this person?"
Which would you choose
A. you have a lot in common with this person and enjoy each others company without a lot of friction and pointless arguments. Have similar personalities, but this person doesn't know what they want to do with their life in terms of work and have not started a career yet or college and is currently not working, but is working on it.
B. you have very little in common and you disagree on major stuff like kids, buying a home and where to live. this person is not crazy about kids but you are. they got a career, the education already and makes good money.
wich would you choose?
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Don't waste your time over thinking this stuff. 
The reality is, when the right one comes along you will know it.
You'll know it with every fiber in your being.
And because they are "the one" you'll accept them for who they are, regardless of what that looks like  |
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02-16-2012, 03:37 PM
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Some great advice and comments here. Lots would choose A, some neither and no one chose B, which is understandable. Some people like to try and make things work so I guess that's why they stay with B, but obviously for the long haul, not a good choice.
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02-16-2012, 11:58 PM
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Don't go with B.
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