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Old 02-15-2012, 12:58 PM
 
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Finding a future somebody is difficult and those words always ring in one's head, "can I spend the rest of my life with this person?"

Which would you choose

A. you have a lot in common with this person and enjoy each others company without a lot of friction and pointless arguments. Have similar personalities, but this person doesn't know what they want to do with their life in terms of work and have not started a career yet or college and is currently not working, but is working on it.

B. you have very little in common and you disagree on major stuff like kids, buying a home and where to live. this person is not crazy about kids but you are. they got a career, the education already and makes good money.

wich would you choose?
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Old 02-15-2012, 01:01 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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A. You can't build a life with someone if you are trying to build 2 completely different kind of lives.
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Old 02-15-2012, 01:06 PM
 
Location: Bellingham, WA
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A. Why would I want to be with B?
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Old 02-15-2012, 01:19 PM
 
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So you all telling me this is a no brainer question?
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Old 02-15-2012, 01:21 PM
 
Location: Bellingham, WA
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It is for me, at least. But everyone's different.
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Old 02-15-2012, 01:21 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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Yes.
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Old 02-15-2012, 01:23 PM
 
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"opposites attract" supposedly?
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Old 02-15-2012, 01:26 PM
 
Location: On the corner of Grey Street
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Neither.
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Old 02-15-2012, 01:28 PM
 
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Neither. The three key factors:

1) Do you enjoy talking to one another?
2) Does the other person make you laugh?
3) Does the other person complement you? Note, that's complement with an 'e' rather than an 'i.'

MrsCPG and I began the relationship with widely different tastes in movies, books, music (She liked freaking Wilson Phillips, for crying out loud). Our backgrounds were different. Our career paths were different. Our attitudes on just about everything, politics, religion, etc., were different.

But we had one very important thing in common. We both agreed on the way to treat the other person in one's life. Common courtesy. Consideration. Being supportive and loyal. All those things. Add that to some really powerful chemistry, and there was no question about matters. And, over the years, we've learned to appreciate the tastes of the other and tolerate the other's excesses. It's made us both better people. All because neither of us wanted to simply marry a clone of ourselves.
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Old 02-15-2012, 01:30 PM
 
Location: Massachusetts
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I'd need a hybrid, I couldn't pick either one.
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