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Old 02-16-2012, 06:52 PM
 
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I was just wondering what anyone's opinon would be of a male that is almost 30 years old who is not married and single. Is it still possible to find someone and get married at this age. I almost feel like I missed my chances in my 20's. Where did the time go? Thing is I'm not very aggressive in trying to find a partner. I would like to find someone, but feel like a lot of time has passed and most people in my age range from say 25-30 are married or very close to it. It's almost like there are no young girls that are single anymore. It's tough to find someone that fits my criteria and is still single.

Should I feel bad about this at this point in my life?

If gets me down a great deal of the time. I always find people asking me if I am married and/or have kids. And they seemed shocked that I am not/give me a hard time about it. Makes me feel like sh@it.

I def did not follow the cookie cutter lifestyle as most do. I'm pretty independent I guess you could say.

Just wondering if there is hope. I'm a normal guy and find that people seem to think of me as attractive, but I just don't know.

Is that part of life over for someone in this situation? I mean no more dating..and just living life solo until death?

Very, very discouraged with the situation.

Thanks for your opinions.
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Old 02-16-2012, 06:59 PM
 
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Absolutely. But if you're not really looking, you won't find it.

I'm curious...

Because marriage seems important to you, why aren't you doing more?
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Old 02-16-2012, 07:03 PM
 
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Is this a serious question? 30 is definitely not too old for a man to find a wife.
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Old 02-16-2012, 07:03 PM
 
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Absolutely. But if you're not really looking, you won't find it.

I'm curious...

Because marriage seems important to you, why aren't you doing more?
Hey Mikala43,

I was wondering did you mean absolutely in that there is hope or not?

I'm looking but with my job I never have much time.

I actually don't even know how to go about finding someone.

so sick of the bar scence and that never works for me.

What does one do to find a mate in life these days?

Just ask random women out whereever you go?

So confused...
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Old 02-16-2012, 07:05 PM
 
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Is this a serious question? 30 is definitely not too old for a man to find a wife.
Yes this is a serious question. In the past few years people have given me a lot of stuff for being single. They act like it is so easy to find someone.

I'm very concerned. It could be 50-60 more years of being solo. Everyone is married or in a LTR around my age...everyone. Fat, skinny, attractive, ugly, every race, everybody is....but I struggle so bad with it.
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Old 02-16-2012, 07:06 PM
 
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Here's the truth, learn it well or suffer the consequences...

In life, attitude is everything.

And we generate the results in life we think we deserve.


When you really believe you deserve something and quit being your own biggest obstacle to obtaining it, you will find what you want if you are willing to work at it.

DO NOT be like the bitter men who post here all the time - they are are their own worst enemies but refuse to believe that.

They would rather blame other people and circumstances for why they don't have what they want. And because they won't take personal responsibility for their own happiness they will remain bitter and alone becoming a self-fulfilling prophecy

You need to work hard to overcome any tendency to be negative on this. Sure it's normal to get discouraged, but you cannot live there okay? 30 is still very young!

My 45 year old male cousin just married the love of his life. We all thought he'd be a confirmed bachelor forever, but 2 years ago he met the most amazing woman. She is 38 and has never been married either. So see, it does happen
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Old 02-16-2012, 07:07 PM
 
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Hey Mikala43,

I was wondering did you mean absolutely in that there is hope or not?

I'm looking but with my job I never have much time.

I actually don't even know how to go about finding someone.

so sick of the bar scence and that never works for me.

What does one do to find a mate in life these days?

Just ask random women out whereever you go?

So confused...

Oops!

Absolutely there is hope! You are young.

I was married for 18 years, widowed at 40, decided to start dating at 42.

There was no one in my day-to-day life to date, never met anyone at a bar I was interested. So I did online dating. I understand that venue seems to be easier for women than men.

You do come across as some what depressed (and a nice guy) - are you?
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Old 02-16-2012, 07:10 PM
 
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If 30 was too old to find a wife then I'm screwed.
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Old 02-16-2012, 07:13 PM
 
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Well, 75-80% of women your age are already married. So, with each passing year, it'll get increasingly difficult to meet a woman to get married to. So you better get looking sooner rather than later.

This is why I think people should be married by their late 20s, to avoid things like this. Sure you may have had all that "fun" earlier in life but you end up empty handed as an unmarried and childless person at the age of 30.

Plus when you wait even longer to have children, you'll be in your 50s by the time your kids are all grown up.

Just like my uncle, he's 48, never been married and is childless. He and his girlfriend JUST got engaged after 6 years together. Why they waited so long before getting engaged is beyond me. But she's already been married before though but he wasted all this time and should have gotten married 25 years ago. Now he's too old to have children. Better late than never though.

What were you doing during your 20s that you couldn't find a wife anyway?
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Old 02-16-2012, 07:16 PM
 
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You are a man so there's more hope for you, MHO.

But I feel your pain, OP, maybe VD had you re-thinking your life. It definetely had that effect on me. Do you go out and do the things that you enjoy it? Have you thought of online dating? If does not work for everybody and I must warn you: If you do not have a tought skin, don't go there. People lie, are mean, you get a lot of dissapointments, but as LovesMountain said, it's all about attitude. I KNOW my perfect man is out there, I just have not met him yet
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