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Old 02-17-2012, 02:12 PM
Location: Cumberland Co., TN
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Originally Posted by joeclyde View Post
My wife and I are going to try a trial separation. Everything seems really cool. No big disagreements.

While we were talking. She mentioned how awkward it would be if we got divorced, and later got remarried but had the same last name. I was like why would we have the same last name? She stated that she is keeping my last name regardless of what we decide to do.

I found that a little weird. Why would you want to keep my last name. She stated that she likes it, and it is officially her name now. I didn't want to make a big deal out of it. Since we seem to be communicating so well now.

But is that weird?
Not weird at all. Its actually very common and you have to request in your divorce that you take back you previous or maiden name.
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Old 02-17-2012, 02:17 PM
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If there are kids involved then I'd definitely understand. I don't think I'd keep my husband's name if we didn't have kids. But we do so in the unlikely event that we ever divorce then I would still keep his name. The only reason I took his name in the first place was because I wanted to have the same name as my kids. Well, that and the fact that he would have been EXTREMELY upset if I didn't take his name. He expected me to take it and I did.
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Old 02-17-2012, 02:46 PM
Location: USA
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I kept my married name. It was my name for over 10 years and everyone in both my professional and social life know me by that name. Besides, I liked the name and it fits me perfectly.
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Old 02-17-2012, 05:12 PM
Location: Brooklyn, NY born & raised!
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I kept my married name after my divorce for the same reason as others. It sounds better, and its a hassle to change all of your documents over. However my ex didn't care.
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Old 02-17-2012, 05:41 PM
Location: Mostly in my head
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I kept my married name after divorce for the same reasons-kids and career.

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Old 02-17-2012, 05:56 PM
Location: Houston
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My ex kept my last name. No kids, but I assume it's because everyone knows her by that name.
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Old 02-17-2012, 06:00 PM
Location: On the corner of Grey Street
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I agree with everyone else. I'm divorced and kept my married name because I prefer it to my maiden name and it's a lot of hassle to change it. I don't know if my ex minds. I don't care if he does. He sent me some paperwork a year after our divorce and addressed it to my maiden name. Maybe he minds, but he can't make me change it!

If I get remarried I will definitely take my new husband's name. If not, I'll have this name forever.
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Old 02-17-2012, 08:36 PM
Location: Ostend,Belgium....
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I've been away from my first ex since 1988 and still use his last name; I like it much better than my maiden name...have no plans to ever see him again, it's an adopted name to me that suits me better than the other one...
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Old 02-17-2012, 10:21 PM
Location: Las Vegas
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I think it's normal. When I got married, no big deal to change your name. Now, in this post 9/11 world it's a huge hassle to change your legal identity. If I was to remarry, I would keep my first husband's last name. If I was going to get married now for the first time, I would keep my maiden name.

Just for example let's say I move to Nevada and need to get a driver's license. If I am a female who has been married divorced, and had name changes, I would have to present every legal document. All the marriage licenses, divorce decrees, and court orders for name changes. What a huge hassle, having to present and keep track of all those documents forever.

You have to do all the same rigamarole to change your Social Security too.

And I can only imagine how much fun it is to change your passport. Probably not cheap either.

Truth is, I can use that married name whenever I please as long as I'm not trying to defraud anyone. I would just use the name when it pleased me and keep the LEGAL name I was given at birth.
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Old 02-18-2012, 03:20 AM
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Some last names are difficult to spell or pronounce. Give someone an easier last name and I imagine they would VERY MUCH want to keep it! (If that is the case...)
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