What should I do about this situation?

[laorbust61]

Originally Posted by findly185

I disagree with everyone. Since you are so inexperienced use this FWB opportunity as a way to get your feet wet. Don't involve your emotions. Play it off like your the one in control and DO NOT reveal how inexperienced you really are.

That's bad advice. Women, ESPECIALLY young ones can't do the FWB without getting burned. It has something to do with the biological clock.

[blondiel]

I suggest that you end this FWB with him and start over with a new person. Have some respect for yourself and get to know the man and establish a relationship before having sex. You are setting yourself up for being just someone to use for sex. Word does get around.

I see no need to discuss how many times you have had sex. He probably doesn't care about that as long as he is getting it.

Start over and do things differently with more self respect.

[JanND]

Originally Posted by Catchofgold

I met this guy through a co-worker and I go over there often. The other night we had sex and it was only my second time but he doesn't know that. He is 5 years older than me and he said it was amazing this last time we hung out which was yesterday I picked him up from work and he told me everyone(the apartment mates) have been telling him he should date me because we're great for each other and he told me he's thought about being with me and I asked him how that though process was going and he said he wasn't sure about what he wants right about now (which is cool because I don't either) & he said that he considers me a close friend and if anything were to happen (relationship-wise) he'd want to take it really slow because he wouldn't want to screw things up. I'm the kind of girl you can tell straight up that you like me and I'll think you're lying. I'm not sure what to do because the sex is great and we cuddle all the time and play video games and watch old movies and we'll make chocolate milk and breakfast for dinner and we get a long great but I'm not sure what he thinks of me and he doesn't know that the first time I slept with him my only my second time having sex with anyone and I'm almost 20 years old. I'm highly inexperienced with guys because when I was younger I wasn't much into dating and I didn't have my first boyfriend until about last year which only lasted a month and that has pretty much been my only relationship. Should I tell him that he's only the second guy I've slept with? (The guy I lost my virginity to I didn't like and I wasn't necessarily attracted to but I wanted to see what it felt like and it only lasted four minutes...I was like...seriously...) Does it seem like this is just a hook-up kind of thing? What's going on here?

This is definitely just a hook up. I think if you're having sex w/ someone you ARE in a relationship. Be smarter, don't have sex w/ someone until you have decided you like them, and the feelings are mutual. Nothing good can come of this habit you are starting at having indiscriminate sex w/ people. You need to work on your self-esteem issues, don't settle for being a booty call, cause that is all you'll ever get if you do. Plus all the risks of having sex w/ someone you know so little about. Do the movies, dinner and the cuddling way before the sex next time. And, put this to the test.....Tell him you would rather see how things work between you two before you continue to have sex....see if this lasts, then you will both know.

[purehuman]

Originally Posted by laorbust61

"Let's take things slow. I don't want to mess up what we have"

EQUALS

Just because we're having sex, don't think you're going to get a commitment out of me. And I don't want to mess up what I HAVE, that being my OPTIONS to sleep around and come back to you for some of what you gave up to me before.

Maybe you better close the kitchen until you figure out what the cooking thing is all about. Cause you're being played, honey. In a bad 90's romantic comedy kinda way. Sorry.

THIS is true...think about it....and as laorbust61 said...."close the kitchen"!!!

[MIKEETC]

Originally Posted by Catchofgold

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What's going on here?

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Originally Posted by Catchofgold

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he said he wasn't sure about what he wants right about now (which is cool because I don't either) & he said that he considers me a close friend and if anything were to happen (relationship-wise) he'd want to take it really slow because he wouldn't want to screw things up.

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