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Old 02-22-2012, 02:29 PM
 
Location: Alaska
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As to the surgery, it was minor surgery, and we don't know what kind.
Minor surgery is just a term used for surgery that doesn't require an overnight stay. The surgery itself can require a long recovery period. For instance, I had my tonsils taken out at an older age. I was out for a week because of it. We do know from the OP that stitches were involved and talking was to be kept to a minimum, so I'd guess it was something in the throat area.

Since the ex-bf knew about the surgery and her restrictions, the ball was in his court for checking on her, which he didn't do. Ten years ago, I might have bought that he didn't call her to keep her talking to a minimum. But today with texting, there's no excuse for him to not check on her to see if she needed anything. Ho, and he would have learned she was sick. At minimum, he should have told her he was postponing plans until she felt better.
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Old 02-22-2012, 02:31 PM
 
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was I wrong for that?

Here's the story..I've been dating him since Oct after we reconnected (I've known him for quite some time). I had minor surgery the week before Valentine's day plus I ended up catching a nasty cold. I was just completely miserable, down and out. Valentine's day came around and he did absolutely NOTHING for me..not even a phone call or text message (to even check up on me) and to make matters worse, my birthday was the next day. I was extremely crushed and livid. He never had an explanation for me so I just ended everything..
What did you do for him? I didn't realize valentines day was for women only. By the way, its a made up holiday. I think he lucked out when you "Dumped" him. I would jump for joy. You are self centered and don't even know it.
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Old 02-22-2012, 02:50 PM
 
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I got him a pair of sneakers which I promptly returned. Also I had oral surgery.
So that incapacitated your fingers such that you couldn't send him an email or, dare I say it, a text? When my SO or I get out of the doctor's or dentist's office, we let each other know how it went right away, and if there was any "news."

Usually they give people Percocet for oral surgery. I'd have had a blast sending my SO shiny happy emails. [url=http://******************]http://******************/happy-smiley-784.gif (broken link)[/url]

At any rate, hopefully this was a learning experience. You have to communicate, every day, when things are on your mind or change your daily routine. That's just how relationships are. If you don't come to understand that, this is going to keep happening.
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Old 02-22-2012, 03:06 PM
 
Location: Back in the gym...Yo Adrian!
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The more I read through this thread, the more it looks as though you both dodged a bullet and neither of you was good for the other. You both broke even, it could have been worse.
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Old 02-22-2012, 03:07 PM
 
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What this entire situation does show is expectations in relationships, and having them...if you "expect" a person to act a certian way, and he/she does not, you have two choices, communicate your expectations, and your dissapointment regarding the issue, or go extreme and break up. I will tell you that some people are dense, and just don't "get" some things. And you have to "prompt" them regarding issues that are important. My ex, constantly was annoyed that I always forgot his birthday...I don't remember dates. I finally realized that this was a big deal to him, so I put it on my calendar for a week prior, so I would remember to plan something special.

My rule, don't expect things, then you are pleasantly surprised if you get anything at all.
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Old 02-22-2012, 03:39 PM
 
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Self centered?? Absolutely not. I love hard and give my all but I also know my worth...so with that being said I know my expectations weren't unreasonable.
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Old 02-22-2012, 03:50 PM
 
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If you "love so hard" why didn't you call him? Didn't you want to talk to him?
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Old 02-22-2012, 04:30 PM
 
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Nope!! NEXT

That never gets old
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Old 02-22-2012, 04:48 PM
 
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Talking Lol...

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Nope!! NEXT
good one...lolol....
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Old 02-22-2012, 07:53 PM
Status: "Waiting for fall break..." (set 16 days ago)
 
Location: Somewhere on the east coast
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Wow what a tool! I'm glad you dumped him! Actions speak so much louder than words. Yeah he loved you...NOT.
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