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1. He did not know she was sick.
2. He expected her to call and she didn't.
3. He was unaware that she was expecting extra attention on Valentines Day.
4. Without bothering to resolve the communications issues between them, she used a text message to break up with him before her birthday, and was surprised and hurt that he still didn't get her a present.
5. There is something inside the OP that craves attention and she becomes angry when the monster isn't fed.
I think this is total bull. The guy was obviously not the type of man she wanted in a long-term or serious relationship. I think what she wants is man attentive and interested enough to check up on her after her surgery and on his own accord find out she's not feeling well (when I was dating my hubby he could always tell something was wrong just by the tone of my voice). And it would also be nice to at least acknowldge V-day to someone you've been seeing AND their birthday also.
I also think the fact that she hasn't heard from him speaks volumes on his real feelings; he doesn't care. If she meant anything to him, he would ben trying to make amends and get back with her.
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Originally Posted by Yzette
Yes, well you are young and eventually will grow out of that kind of churlishness, one would hope. Correct me if I'm wrong, but you've never really had a girlfriend or been in love, so I'm going to take this ranting from its source, because when the time comes, you will either change your tune because you realize how trite and silly you're being, or you'll get dumped just like the OP's boyfriend.
You, and the others who are raging on and on about this, are not making any great statement about commercialism. You're just making yourselves look petty and childish. With all of the injustice in the world, with all of the war and poverty, with the state of the economy and the nation as a whole with millions still out of work and all of the pressing issues of the day, you folks are going to rant and rave about a holiday that celebrates love? Really?
Good luck with that.
So it's petty and childish to rant about something I don't believe in? Never thought standing up against something would be considered childish. Whatever.
As for the OP, looks like neither of you cared much about the relationship so just move on.
He knew my expectations for Vday..we initially had dinner plans with another couple but those plans fell through because of my surgery. I didn't call him to end everything because I didn't want to rip my stitches..I was shocked, enraged, disgusted, hurt, sad, and not to mention damn near coughing up a lung. I had surgery on the 8th and I was on dr's order to keep the talking to a minimum..HE KNEW ALL OF THIS. And he knows me. It pisses me off because I was there for him when he had the stomach flu last month (I got his meds, food and took care of him)..for his birthday I planned a surprise gathering and even got him a f*cking cake. Wow this is making me angry all over again.
What rip your stitches? You can't have a normal discussion without shrieking like a harpy?
Please, I've had two major abdominal surgeries, both of which required not only internal stitches, but 18 and 23 staples on the outside, respectively, from my belly-button downward, to keep my guts from spilling out, and somehow, just somehow, I managed to get on the phone and let my SO know that I needed him--without sounding like a petulant brat whose world has come to an end.
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Originally Posted by le roi
Hey, she's the one who said she had expectations for V-Day, and that he knew what they were. I'm curious if that's a two way street.
As to the surgery, it was minor surgery, and we don't know what kind.
I'm just looking for some indication that this drama isn't just the result of a petulant, unmet demand. (having faced quite a few of these, myself.)
Yep. If it was minor surgery, she could have ordered a gift for him and had it delivered to her place to hang onto ahead of time. What, no Internet connection? No Amazon?
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Originally Posted by Alanboy395
So it's petty and childish to rant about something I don't believe in? Never thought standing up against something would be considered childish. Whatever.
As for the OP, looks like neither of you cared much about the relationship so just move on.
No, it's petty and childish to make grand announcements of how you'll give someone a gift on the 13th just to avoid the actual holiday.
However, I agree with your second paragraph: This couple was doomed.
What's with all this V day crap?! She had a SURGERY!
It almost seems like the guy wanted out of the relationship but didn't have the cojones to break it off so he pulled a total d-bag move for the easy out.
I mean there is no way this is an accident and if he's like that all the time he never would have lasted since October.
What rip your stitches? You can't have a normal discussion without shrieking like a harpy?
Please, I've had two major abdominal surgeries, both of which required not only internal stitches, but 18 and 23 staples on the outside, respectively, from my belly-button downward, to keep my guts from spilling out, and somehow, just somehow, I managed to get on the phone and let my SO know that I needed him--without sounding like a petulant brat whose world has come to an end.
Yep. If it was minor surgery, she could have ordered a gift for him and had it delivered to her place to hang onto ahead of time. What, no Internet connection? No Amazon?
No, it's petty and childish to make grand announcements of how you'll give someone a gift on the 13th just to avoid the actual holiday.
However, I agree with your second paragraph: This couple was doomed.
I got him a pair of sneakers which I promptly returned. Also I had oral surgery.
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She had a SURGERY!
