What makes people bitter/jaded?

[irish_bob]

Originally Posted by Slanderous

I was wondering this too. It seems like bitter men get railed on here more than bitter women.

Some people have legitimately been through some tough times and I can understand why they'd be bitter. The guy whose wife tells him he's considering cheating on him is one example. I can understand why some early to mid 20s people are bitter but, as I realized, things can turn around pretty fast.

bitter women are often labelled as strong no nonesense independant women , hardass go getters

[irish_bob]

Originally Posted by Dewdrop93

The only person that your hatred is hurting is yourself. Hatred is poison to a healthy, happy life.

hatred is not a choice , i only hate one person in this entire world and i have not seen or spoken to them in nearly fourteen years , fact of the matter is none of the other thousands ive met have warranted hating , hatred is merely a reflection of the negative impact someone had on you

[irish_bob]

Originally Posted by CSD610

I'm not saying me. I chose a long time ago not to allow the actions of others to control how I live my life. I like my life the way it is and I have never had thoughts of opting out, besides my opinion is that anyone who chooses to "opt out" is a coward.

only an idiot without any imagination and who believes bland cliches are forms of wisdom would say that suicide is a cowards way out , by any objective analysis, suicide is an act of bravery

[irish_bob]

Originally Posted by Kim46741974

Bitterness stems from refusal to take responsibility for one's own actions. People generally have different ideas of what it even means to be burned, but everyone has a hand in their relationship problems, even if it's simply choosing the wrong person and putting up with it. When one chooses not to take responsibility for anything, it allows them to feel like a perpetual victim, which ironically makes them more bitter because they now have no control over anything. So one can own their own actions and take control over what they can while striving to be a better partner and a better human being (which can be painful cause it's hard to look in the mirror) or they can cede all of their power, be a perpetual victim, and have no control over anything. This will ensure that they remain bitter cause everyone just keeps heaping evil on poor, helpless them.

did you pick up that pearl from a fortune cookie

so if a child grows up in an enviroment where they are repeatedly abused and become bitter from it , they are simply refusing to take responsibility for their own actions

such a simple outlook on life , everyone can be pigeonholed

[Braunwyn]

Originally Posted by irish_bob

hatred is not a choice , i only hate one person in this entire world and i have not seen or spoken to them in nearly fourteen years , fact of the matter is none of the other thousands ive met have warranted hating , hatred is merely a reflection of the negative impact someone had on you

Did you read the post she was responding to?