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Old 02-22-2012, 04:31 PM
 
Location: Austin
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I think it could be the ability to learn from one's mistakes.

For most people, all we need is one entanglement with a person of a "certain nature." Just for example, say a man has an experience with a gold digger that leaves him bitter. But he doesn't know how to properly assess the women he gets involved with in the future ... and the past keeps repeating itself.

One very vital thing to be aware of are markers of human behavior. People tell you who they are all the time. So many times, we simply fail to listen.
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Old 02-22-2012, 04:52 PM
 
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There are bitter and jaded women, too. So....why are you singling out men?
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Old 02-22-2012, 05:03 PM
 
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think it could be the ability to learn from one's mistakes.

For most people, all we need is one entanglement with a person of a "certain nature." Just for example, say a man has an experience with a gold digger that leaves him bitter. But he doesn't know how to properly assess the women he gets involved with in the future ... and the past keeps repeating itself.

One very vital thing to be aware of are markers of human behavior. People tell you who they are all the time. So many times, we simply fail to listen.

supernaut--100%, especially the last paragraph.
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Old 02-22-2012, 05:09 PM
 
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In the world we live in, many people are being bullied, ignored or excluded by other stronger or higher-status people so that can leave them feeling hurt or offended.

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Old 02-22-2012, 05:10 PM
 
Location: Davenport, Iowa
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There are bitter and jaded women, too. So....why are you singling out men?
I was wondering this too. It seems like bitter men get railed on here more than bitter women.

Some people have legitimately been through some tough times and I can understand why they'd be bitter. The guy whose wife tells him he's considering cheating on him is one example. I can understand why some early to mid 20s people are bitter but, as I realized, things can turn around pretty fast.
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Old 02-22-2012, 05:49 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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I was wondering this too. It seems like bitter men get railed on here more than bitter women.

Some people have legitimately been through some tough times and I can understand why they'd be bitter. The guy whose wife tells him he's considering cheating on him is one example. I can understand why some early to mid 20s people are bitter but, as I realized, things can turn around pretty fast.
I think the men get singled out more because the bitter men on here are regulars whereas most of the bitter women here are "drivebys" - as someone else called them. Just an observation - and feel free to disagree with me because I very well could be wrong - but I think that many of the women that post here do so for entertainment and many of the men that post here do so to vent their frustrations. There are lots of exceptions on both sides - but I do see a lot of this. Just my 2 cents.
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Old 02-22-2012, 06:00 PM
 
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I think it could be the ability to learn from one's mistakes.

For most people, all we need is one entanglement with a person of a "certain nature." Just for example, say a man has an experience with a gold digger that leaves him bitter. But he doesn't know how to properly assess the women he gets involved with in the future ... and the past keeps repeating itself.

One very vital thing to be aware of are markers of human behavior. People tell you who they are all the time. So many times, we simply fail to listen.
Good point. It's good to not be self centered and pay attention to other people. I wish I were better at observing people and reading their body language.
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Old 02-22-2012, 06:33 PM
 
Location: Bellingham, WA
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I'm not bitter or jaded toward women specifically, but humanity in general.
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Old 02-22-2012, 06:41 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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I'm not bitter or jaded toward women specifically, but humanity in general.
That, too.
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Old 02-22-2012, 06:42 PM
 
Location: Asheville, Nc
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I think people can become bitter/jaded when they've been hurt deeply. If they're hurt deeply repeatedly that can compound the problem. It can very hard to bounce back from a broken heart and broken trust, but you need to do it for yourself.

Very true. I would even venture to say that some wounds don't heal all the way. The more you have had your heart broken the more skittish you are about trying it again.
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