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Old 02-25-2012, 09:19 AM
 
Location: Atlantis
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I have a friend that is a divorce attorney, owns a law firm and makes over $225,000 a year.

He has a front row seat everyday that he is at work to the fact that infidelity is not "tolerated and acceptable"

His nice house, boat, vacations, and net worth are all based on the fact that infidelity in the US is NOT tolerated and acceptable.

And he loves it. If infidelity was tolerated and acceptable, he would probably be working in either immigration, zoning, or real estate law.
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Old 02-25-2012, 09:27 AM
 
Location: southern california
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I'm french and I wouldn't say infidelity is accepted or expected here, more of something that CAN occur and not as something of a moral substance (in regards to sexuality), more as something having to do with endangering the family basis. The only true difference I see with the USA is that it's probably much less a cause for immediate divorce. People try to get over it, it's not the worst thing someone can do.

(well except for politicians, one or more lovers on the side is nearly expected from them, shows they're good at multitasking ;-) Thanks to Bill Maher, but actually quite true - We basically don't care if the spouses don't either, except for outrageous cases like DSK.)
do women stand to gain as much by divorce financially in france as they do here? in settlements; mainly the husband's, salary, pension, and property and payment of all her debts created during the marriage. some experts put the real divorce rate in america as high as 67%. why is it that the french rate is so much lower?
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Old 02-25-2012, 10:43 AM
 
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I have a friend that is a divorce attorney, owns a law firm and makes over $225,000 a year.

He has a front row seat everyday that he is at work to the fact that infidelity is not "tolerated and acceptable"

His nice house, boat, vacations, and net worth are all based on the fact that infidelity in the US is NOT tolerated and acceptable.

And he loves it. If infidelity was tolerated and acceptable, he would probably be working in either immigration, zoning, or real estate law.
I would find it depressing. Apparently, he is driven by his materialism. Family law is emotionally draining, from what I've heard.
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Old 02-25-2012, 07:16 PM
 
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Actually there are countries like France where it is much more tolerated and sometimes even expected.
I asked my French friend about this, and she said it's just as wrong for them as it is for us. No one wants to be cheated on.
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Old 02-25-2012, 09:06 PM
 
Location: Atlantis
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I would find it depressing. Apparently, he is driven by his materialism. Family law is emotionally draining, from what I've heard.

We are all driven by materialism. We are physical beings and require materials (homes, cars, clothes, stuff and other resources). Unless you are willing to go to Tibet tomorrow and practice Buddihism - then you are still "driven" by materialism.

And although family law is emotionally draining, he doesn't have to worry about that. He is a sociopath and has no emotional capacity that could be drained.
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Old 02-26-2012, 10:19 AM
 
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Adultery has been glorified though Hollywood and the media. I reckon nearly half of all American married couples commit infidelity or have open relationships. I don't hear about couples in other countries doing this but in America.

Is the USA the only country where married couples commit adultery and it's perfectly acceptable in American culture?
Infidelity is the reason for the high divorce rate exactly because it is not tolerated well here.

Most other cultures do tolerate adultery. Hispanic cultures for example take adultery in stride, Muslim cultures don't even consider a man cheating as adultery, he's just trying to add to his harem. European cultures are much more lenient toward adultery.
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Old 02-26-2012, 10:21 AM
 
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We are all driven by materialism. We are physical beings and require materials (homes, cars, clothes, stuff and other resources). Unless you are willing to go to Tibet tomorrow and practice Buddihism - then you are still "driven" by materialism.

And although family law is emotionally draining, he doesn't have to worry about that. He is a sociopath and has no emotional capacity that could be drained.
That's probably why he chose that career in the first place. It makes it easier for him to do his job.
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Old 02-26-2012, 10:27 AM
 
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the US seems to be the most anti-sex country in the western world. can't think of any country that comes close to being so against extra-marital sex in the west. a truly perverted country with so many problems.
Except we don't consider fidelity and love to be perverted.

But you're right, eveyone in Mexico found it very odd that the Clinton adultery was even an issue because in that country, they would find fidelity especially by a powerful wealthy man to be very odd indeed.
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Old 02-26-2012, 10:30 AM
 
Location: Out in the Badlands
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Adultery has been glorified though Hollywood and the media. I reckon nearly half of all American married couples commit infidelity or have open relationships. I don't hear about couples in other countries doing this but in America.

Is the USA the only country where married couples commit adultery and it's perfectly acceptable in American culture?
Try western Europe.
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Old 02-26-2012, 10:31 AM
 
Location: Mammoth Lakes, CA
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It's sad when people have so little real world experience that they actually believe the things they see on MTV, the Lifetime Channel or Bravo.
LOL! The OP has obviously never lived in Europe.
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