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Old 02-24-2012, 03:01 PM
 
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So I have been dating this girl for a minute. We haven't gotten too serious yet, and are just keeping things light and fun so I am not really sweating the situation I am about to describe. I am just curious what other people think about this.

She meets this new girl. They start hanging out constantly. My girl is a student and only works part time so she doesn't have tons of money. The new friend has been buying her lunches/dinners, taking her to movies, paid for her to get her nails done, treated her to a day at the spa all within a month of meeting each other. So weird right? It's like their dating.

Anyway so here is where it gets interesting. She tells me the other night that the new friend and her boyfriend are swingers, and they go to sex clubs and swap partners and have sex with strangers like once a week.

So do you guys think it's trouble that she's hanging out with swingers that are spending tons of money on her?
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Old 02-24-2012, 03:06 PM
 
Location: On the corner of Grey Street
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Sounds like trouble to me. But I'm not into swinging or accepting lavish gifts from people I don't know very well.
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Old 02-24-2012, 03:08 PM
 
Location: Chicago
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So I have been dating this girl for a minute. We haven't gotten too serious yet, and are just keeping things light and fun so I am not really sweating the situation I am about to describe. I am just curious what other people think about this.

She meets this new girl. They start hanging out constantly. My girl is a student and only works part time so she doesn't have tons of money. The new friend has been buying her lunches/dinners, taking her to movies, paid for her to get her nails done, treated her to a day at the spa all within a month of meeting each other. So weird right? It's like their dating.

Anyway so here is where it gets interesting. She tells me the other night that the new friend and her boyfriend are swingers, and they go to sex clubs and swap partners and have sex with strangers like once a week.

So do you guys think it's trouble that she's hanging out with swingers that are spending tons of money on her?
Congrats on your new relationship? haha. I think that was a typo.

Anyway, I dont think you should be concerned if you trust her. However, the "goodies" may be coming because they want to persuade her into doing something. I think once she turns them down there may be some hostility. If you think she is the type that might be down for swinging, you need to start asking yourself if you would want to be involved. If not, you need to run, run fast.
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Old 02-24-2012, 03:08 PM
 
Location: Reno, NV
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Is she bi? Then she may be intrigued. I think swingers have plenty of non-swinger friends too. Anyway, it's her choice, and you only get to have a say if you become exclusive/serious with each other.
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Old 02-24-2012, 03:08 PM
 
Location: Washington, DC area
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Lol, sounds suspect.
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Old 02-24-2012, 03:11 PM
 
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Congrats on your new relationship? haha. I think that was a typo.

Anyway, I dont think you should be concerned if you trust her. However, the "goodies" may be coming because they want to persuade her into doing something. I think once she turns them down there may be some hostility. If you think she is the type that might be down for swinging, you need to start asking yourself if you would want to be involved. If not, you need to run, run fast.

the expression "for a minute" is a southern one meaning "for a while". i dunno where it came from, but my grandmother used to say it all the time.
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Old 02-24-2012, 03:12 PM
 
Location: Manhattan
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So I have been dating this girl for a minute. We haven't gotten too serious yet, and are just keeping things light and fun so I am not really sweating the situation I am about to describe. I am just curious what other people think about this.

She meets this new girl. They start hanging out constantly. My girl is a student and only works part time so she doesn't have tons of money. The new friend has been buying her lunches/dinners, taking her to movies, paid for her to get her nails done, treated her to a day at the spa all within a month of meeting each other. So weird right? It's like their dating.

Anyway so here is where it gets interesting. She tells me the other night that the new friend and her boyfriend are swingers, and they go to sex clubs and swap partners and have sex with strangers like once a week.

So do you guys think it's trouble that she's hanging out with swingers that are spending tons of money on her?
Its possible that they are grooming her to join them. So you should probably bring the subject up. You might start the conversation by asking her what she thinks about what her friends do. Let her response guide your decision about what *you* want -- but try to recognize to each their own.
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Old 02-24-2012, 03:21 PM
 
Location: USA
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Its possible that they are grooming her to join them. So you should probably bring the subject up. You might start the conversation by asking her what she thinks about what her friends do. Let her response guide your decision about what *you* want -- but try to recognize to each their own.
Thats what I was thinking. Keep your ears up!
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Old 02-24-2012, 03:23 PM
 
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Well like I said we are NOT in a committed relationship so she is free to swing away if that's what she wants to do. I just hope she is cool and is honest about it ya know so I can go my own way in peace with as little drama as possible.
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Old 02-24-2012, 05:27 PM
 
Location: Mostly in my head
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Yeah she is being groomed. Many couples in that life like a regular girl for 3somes. If not your thing, be clear about it.

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