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Old 09-07-2007, 01:01 PM
 
Location: Metro Milwaukee, WI
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I am in my early 30s...a guy.

I have noticed a TON of women I have known in the past decade (early 20s to early 30s is prime dating, engagement, marrige time) do this habit, and it annoys the heck out of me.

When they are dating a guy, he is "John", "Rick", "Phil", "Andy", "Jer", etc., etc., etc.

However, seemingly from the second they get engaged, the names change to the full given name that no one except maybe the guy's parents call him (including her herself)...the name - even after she's been calling him his short name for years - instantly turns into "Jonathan", "Richard", "Philip", "Andrew", "Jeremiah", etc. It bugs the heck out of me!!

And even if she is a Jenny or a Beth, when she refers to herself AND her spouse, then she turns into a Jennifer or an Elizabeth.

Ladies...you know you do this (or if you do not, you know many ladies that do)...WHY, WHY, WHY do women do this!?

Men...if your fiance/wife did/does this, why did she do it, and does it bug you (honestly?).

My wife seems almost to be in the minority with this, as she never once called me by my "full" name after engagement/marriage, except if she is screwing around with me.

I would love to hear the reasons behind why this happens so much!
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Old 09-07-2007, 01:05 PM
 
Location: I'm not lost, I'm exploring!
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...tell us how you really feel, lol.
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Old 09-07-2007, 01:07 PM
 
Location: Midwest
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Honestly, I don't know anyone who's done that. I've seen or heard them call their other halves worse names, then their full names....
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Old 09-07-2007, 01:08 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, TN
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Never in my life heard anyone I know do that

I only refer to my husband by his full name when he's in trouble
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Old 09-07-2007, 01:12 PM
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Never in my life heard anyone I know do that

Me neither.
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Old 09-07-2007, 01:14 PM
 
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I have heard a couple of women do that and have wondered why as well. A Jim/James and a Bill/William come to mind. Is it like asserting some sort of special ownership?
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Old 09-07-2007, 01:16 PM
 
Location: Somewhere over the rainbow!
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Never heard of such a thing....I went from the more formal full first name to Dear, Sweetheart and Honey or "hey you" when I was being ignored!!

O.Nana
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Old 09-07-2007, 01:27 PM
 
Location: Southern California
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Because we're mean and horrible! Just kidding...I personally don't do this. First of all, I basically never, ever call my husband by a real name. I think if I tried to say, "Dave, could we..." (etc. etc.) it would stumble in my mouth. I call him "honey". He calls me "honey" too.

I don't ever call him David. That would be even weirder.

My sister generally refers to her significant others and, when she was married, to her husband by the full name, but she did that while dating, too. Her husband was always "Robert". Nobody else called him "Robert," LOL.

I'm not sure about the phenomena you're talking about...but I'm sure you must have seen it although I've never seen it myself. There must be some reason. I don't know. Maybe because women feel more "grown up" now that they're married and are therefore using the "grown up" version of the name? I don't know.
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Old 09-07-2007, 01:43 PM
 
Location: Metro Milwaukee, WI
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Hmmm...it is odd...it seems few here have even heard about that much less do it or know those who do, maybe it is a regional thing?? Interesting, as I have talked to many others who have observed the same thing as I quite commonly (so I know I am not just out of my mind on this! )...

OK, JerZ, you stated: "Her husband was always "Robert". Nobody else called him "Robert," LOL." Here is a start, although I admit I am grasping at straws. Do you know why she would call him by his full, proper name when no one else did?

I am not really "angry" about this......just kind of a major pet peeve and I heard it three times this AM and had to do a Friday AM vent!!
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Old 09-07-2007, 01:54 PM
 
Location: Las Vegas, Nevada
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Never in my life heard anyone I know do that
Same here. That's the first I ever heard that one before.

I just saw the title of this thread and had to see what it was about this time that women do.
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