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Old 02-27-2012, 06:54 AM
 
Location: Home of the best seafood
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I need somewhere to vent. My marriage is crumbling and I'm still at my mother in laws along with my husband until I find somewhere to go. I can't go back to mother's house because she is taking care of everyone and has no room for me. I was suppose to go to my aunts but I was trying to save my marriage. My aunt is now saying that her room isn't available. I have no money relocate right now so I"m stuck. Everyday my husband is asking me to leave when he knows I have no money, and no where to go. He doesn't have a job neither, but I think that he is about to deploy and wants me gone so he won't have to help me out. It's all about money with him.

I have never been in any situation like this. I have always opened the door for people. I gave my room up a few times to family members who needed somewhere to go, and now when I need somewhere to go, no one gives a sh*t. I'm tired. I don't know what else to do. I"m still out of work.

Just need somewhere to vent. I don't need anyone's negativity today, i'm dealing with enough. If you don't have anything nice to say, please don't comment. I don't need anymore bad energy. Thanks!

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Old 02-27-2012, 06:56 AM
 
Location: Atlanta & NYC
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It's good to be able to vent. Do you have any friends who would be willing to share an apartment with you?
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Old 02-27-2012, 07:03 AM
 
Location: Home of the best seafood
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It's good to be able to vent. Do you have any friends who would be willing to share an apartment with you?

Yeah I have a friend who invited me over, but its across town. I may have to take them up on their offer though smh
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Old 02-27-2012, 07:04 AM
 
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Go see an attorney. They often do a free first consult, at least find out your options. If your hubby wants a divorce, let him pay for it. My Daughter is a military wife, as a military wife you may have a few more options regarding what he is supposed to do re: supporting you, I would check w/ some authority on base.
Depending on what you find out from either the attorney( is there a attorney on base?), or some authority on base...You may be able to find out your options for support from your husband during his deployment, or the divorce. If you have children go to social services and see if you can qualify for food stamps and housing and other programs. Child support will be something you need to explore also, if you have children.
Not having a job, have you tried the unemployment office to see if you qualify for help w/ programs that may be geared to your situation. There are programs that help w/ unskilled unemployed folks, there may be something for "displaced homemakers" which is what you technically are if your hubby refuses to support you, go to your unemployment office, talk to someo ne there about being a displaced homemaker....Find out if there are programs to help you. Also, Go to the Welfare Dept, Soc Services...whatever they are called in your area....Get started and find out your options. There are usually more programs available for females than males, unfortunately....Good luck. these are suggestions that may help simply based on my own life experiences, I am not an attorney.

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Old 02-27-2012, 07:05 AM
 
Location: NY
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I am so sorry to hear about such a bad situation.

Sounds like you need a good friend to rely on, so you can get out and get back on your feet!

I hope a family member, or your friend can step up for you!
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Old 02-27-2012, 07:06 AM
 
Location: Home of the best seafood
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Go see an attorney. You may be able to find out your options for support from your husband during the divorce. If you have children go to social services and see if you can qualify for food stamps and housing and other programs. Child support will be something you need to explore also, if you have children. Not having a job, have you tried the unemployment office to see if you qualify for help w/ programs that may be geared to your situation. There are programs that help w/ unskilled unemployed folks, there may be something for "displaced homemakers" which is what you technically are if your hubby refuses to support you, go to your unemployment office, talk to someo ne there about being a displaced homemaker....Find out if there are programs to help you. Also, Go to the Welfare Dept, Soc Services...whatever they are called in your area....Get started and find out your options. There are usually more programs available for females than males, unfortunately....Good luck.
Thanks I will do just that!
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Old 02-27-2012, 07:09 AM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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I need somewhere to vent. My marriage is crumbling and I'm still at my mother in laws along with my husband until I find somewhere to go. I can't go back to mother's house because she is taking care of everyone and has no room for me. I was suppose to go to my aunts but I was trying to save my marriage. My aunt is now saying that her room isn't available. I have no money relocate right now so I"m stuck. Everyday my husband is asking me to leave when he knows I have no money, and no where to go. He doesn't have a job neither, but I think that he is about to deploy and wants me gone so he won't have to help me out. It's all about money with him.

I have never been in any situation like this. I have always opened the door for people. I gave my room up a few times to family members who needed somewhere to go, and now when I need somewhere to go, no one gives a sh*t. I'm tired. I don't know what else to do. I"m still out of work.

Just need somewhere to vent. I don't need anyone's negativity today, i'm dealing with enough. If you don't have anything nice to say, please don't comment. I don't need anymore bad energy. Thanks!

You say your husband doesn't have a job, but he's about to deploy??

Sounds like he DOES have a job, in the military, right?

If that is the case then aren't there resources for spouses like you? He can't starve you or refuse to support you if you are married. Contact his CO or other military personnel for info on your options
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Old 02-27-2012, 07:13 AM
 
Location: Baltimore, MD
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I would definitely try and stay with a friend. Maybe you could barter something for a service since you say your don't have a job. Perhaps someone needs some babysitting or cleaning and you could stay and help out at their house until you get a job or get on your feet or something.
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Old 02-27-2012, 07:21 AM
 
Location: Home of the best seafood
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You say your husband doesn't have a job, but he's about to deploy??

Sounds like he DOES have a job, in the military, right?

If that is the case then aren't there resources for spouses like you? He can't starve you or refuse to support you if you are married. Contact his CO or other military personnel for info on your options
He is reserves so he only has a job if he deploys, and that's what I meant.

Thanks for that advice. I may have to contact them.
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Old 02-27-2012, 07:24 AM
 
Location: Home of the best seafood
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I would definitely try and stay with a friend. Maybe you could barter something for a service since you say your don't have a job. Perhaps someone needs some babysitting or cleaning and you could stay and help out at their house until you get a job or get on your feet or something.
I have been looking. I see alot of dogwalking jobs, but I'm not too fond of pets. I'll keep looking for babysitting gigs
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