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When she said "I don't have kids and I
don't want to be with you" that's when you should have said "the feeling is mutual".
She will only perceive it how she intented it towards you and then that is on HER. If she intended it as an insult then you are giving it right back to her in her own words.
As for married folks with children not getting picked on...have you ever been married with children?
I can bet you I get just as many comments on our choice to have a large-ish family (4 kids). I've heard it all:
"don't you know how those babies are made?"
"don't you know what birth control is?"
"are they all yours?"
"do they all have the same dad"?
"were you trying to have a (fill in the sport) team?"
"better you than me"
"you are either crazy or a saint"
"was he/she an accident?"
"were they all planned?"
We also get countless comments on collecting welfare services and how their tax dollars are feeding my kids (which is not the case...we can afford to live very comfortably)
.....and on and on and on. Perfect strangers have asked or said these things to me thinking it is their business.
What it boils down to, is that some people are nosey and they think they are being clever. They think they are the first one to think of their snarky comments and really, it's just ignorance. It comes in all shapes and sizes and doesn't discriminate.
Eh they can think all they want. People judge me all the time at work. And I just think they are bored with their own life so they have to worry about mine.
Life happens as you go.
You are a woman! You can get away with lot of things though.
First of all, you admit to answering these rude people's prying questions, then you say, "I am also a very private person and I don't discuss my private life with just anyone specially co-workers"
Methinks you aren't nearly as private as you SHOULD be.
Don't let people pressure you into answering questions you don't want to answer. Try to remember to give generalized answers if you feel you have to say anything at all.
I answered what was asked though just not in details. How can I politely tell them no and end the conversation?
I meant if someone keeps asking about whether you want kids and you say no and then they tease you, that's when you could joke back and say, "Well, you might be the one to change my mind (about having kids)."
Even if it's not true. It just might throw her and shut her up.
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