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Old 02-28-2012, 05:02 AM
 
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Yep touching means nothing, ever.
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Old 02-28-2012, 05:05 AM
 
Location: Australia
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erm sorry I'm a 46 year old woman and I can tell you, this lady knows exactly what she's doing.

She's begging for it!
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Old 02-28-2012, 05:15 AM
 
Location: England
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Partner could be man or woman, if she said a HE then it is a HE.

She may fancy you, she is only human after all, we all have red blood going through our veins!

She touches you so she likes you...as a friend???? - maybe more ???

Ask her about her partner, what does he do? How does she speak about him? Does she light up when she talks about him?

A bit of further exploration - via info about her partner would help. If she likes YOU specifically, she will not want to talk about her partner much if at all. But if she is in love with her partner then she will talk a lot about him.

Touching your arm.....could just be friendly gesture, some people are touchy feely.

Have you got any chemistry going on? Do you catch her looking at you and holding your gaze? How old are you? If this woman is a lot older than you, then that may well put her off trying to take things further with you. Also, if she is still teaching you then it would be totally unprofessional for her to take advantage of her role and conduct any intimate relationship with her student.
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Old 02-28-2012, 09:01 AM
 
Location: NY
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I would say that her mention of having a partner is the big sign here. She obviously has a like and interest in you, but has also pointed out that she is not available. So the interest does not seem to be romantic to me.

Touching by itself is not a huge sign. It can be, in combination of others. Here, I think it is a sign she likes you as a friend.
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Old 02-28-2012, 09:11 AM
 
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So, I don't know. I'm just wondering 2 things.

-Why does she refer to her man as a partner? (assuming her partner is a male)

-What to make of the touching?
My guess is she doesn't want to refer to her male partner as a boyfriend, since that term seems juvenile, especially when a 45 year old professor is talking to her teenage student. Or she is a female and she does not want to disclose it.

Nothing is ever black and white - she wants to get in your pants vs. she only touches you as a friendly/vibing gesture. So what to make of it? I think physical contact ALONE cannot be an indicator of anything. If there were more signs then perhaps she was attracted to you, but in the context you've described, it seems she was using physical contact as a rapport device.
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Old 02-28-2012, 09:19 AM
 
Location: Plover, WI
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Please listen to my advice: leave it alone. I'm also a female Prof and countless times I have had male students in my office. I have touched them on the arm and laughed with them. It means NOTHING. Especially when she specifically mentioned her partner (which leads me to believe she's gay... straight women would invariably say "Boyfriend.")

The touching means nothing. She's not interested or she would have made that abundantly clear. Mentioning a "partner" means she is not interested.
Ha. One of my friends went to a professor back when I was in college and the professor mentioned doing something with his partner. My friend was like, 'you mean your tennis partner?' 'No.' Then he got it.
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Old 02-28-2012, 10:41 AM
 
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How big of a sign is physical contact from a woman?

I graduated from my university a couple months ago. For the last 2 years, I had a professor, who I had a huge crush on. She liked me as well (as a student/friend). We always talked about life in her office hours. She helped me with the work a lot. Used me as a good example to other students. Poked fun of me to other students. Took an interest in learning about me and my family, letters of rec Etc etc.

Obviously, as she was my professor, I didn't make a move. She would also mention that although she was divorced (she's about 45), she has a partner. She almost never referred to the partner as he or she, but once I heard her say he.

Anyways, last week I went in to visit her. I have always heard that physical contact is a sign a woman is interested in you. Every joke I made, she would laugh hysterically, and put her hand on my hand or arm, and even leave it there for a bit.

So, I don't know. I'm just wondering 2 things.

-Why does she refer to her man as a partner? (assuming her partner is a male)

-What to make of the touching?
If it hasn't already been said, at 45, she probably feels more comfortable calling a Significant Other a "Partner" as oppose to a "Boyfriend".

As far as the touching, that could just be in her nature. Maybe she's that way with everyone when she laughs. I wouldn't make too much of it.
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Old 02-28-2012, 11:31 AM
 
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I don't know... tell me some jokes.... if I feel like touching you across cyberspace, then you are really good with the jokes. If your jokes are boring and you said this woman was laughing hysterically, then yeah, she wants you.
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Old 02-28-2012, 11:33 AM
 
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There was another student in the room and she didn't make any touching motions towards him. Also, I noticed her touching me increased since I graduated.
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Old 02-28-2012, 02:30 PM
 
Location: Australia
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Stop all this thinking and analysing and give it a nudge. Faint heart never won fair lady.
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