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Old 02-27-2012, 10:24 PM
 
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How big of a sign is physical contact from a woman?

I graduated from my university a couple months ago. For the last 2 years, I had a professor, who I had a huge crush on. She liked me as well (as a student/friend). We always talked about life in her office hours. She helped me with the work a lot. Used me as a good example to other students. Poked fun of me to other students. Took an interest in learning about me and my family, letters of rec Etc etc.

Obviously, as she was my professor, I didn't make a move. She would also mention that although she was divorced (she's about 45), she has a partner. She almost never referred to the partner as he or she, but once I heard her say he.

Anyways, last week I went in to visit her. I have always heard that physical contact is a sign a woman is interested in you. Every joke I made, she would laugh hysterically, and put her hand on my hand or arm, and even leave it there for a bit.

So, I don't know. I'm just wondering 2 things.

-Why does she refer to her man as a partner? (assuming her partner is a male)

-What to make of the touching?
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Old 02-27-2012, 10:28 PM
 
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Some people are just touch feely.
It can mean nothing or that she likes you, not necessarily wanting more.

She's told you about her partner.
Not everyone is married, or wants to be.
Being in a partnership is what they want.

Time to move on.
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Old 02-27-2012, 10:31 PM
 
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Right. I don't think I should/will do anything; more just trying to make sense of the situation.
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Old 02-27-2012, 10:31 PM
 
Location: Mammoth Lakes, CA
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Please listen to my advice: leave it alone. I'm also a female Prof and countless times I have had male students in my office. I have touched them on the arm and laughed with them. It means NOTHING. Especially when she specifically mentioned her partner (which leads me to believe she's gay... straight women would invariably say "Boyfriend.")

The touching means nothing. She's not interested or she would have made that abundantly clear. Mentioning a "partner" means she is not interested.
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Old 02-27-2012, 10:57 PM
 
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Nothing, it means nothing, sorry to disappoint.
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Old 02-27-2012, 10:58 PM
 
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Nothing, it means nothing, sorry to disappoint.
Women don't do things that mean nothing.
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Old 02-27-2012, 10:59 PM
 
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Don't over analyze or read anything more into it than her being friendly. She has mentioned a partner, you said you were friends through school, leave it at that.
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Old 02-27-2012, 11:01 PM
 
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Like I said, I'm not going to "do" anything. Just curious.
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Old 02-27-2012, 11:03 PM
 
Location: Viña del Mar, Chile
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I've had professors come and talk to me and put their arms around my waist while talking. Ok, only one.. but you get the point. Then again, everyone wants me
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Old 02-27-2012, 11:07 PM
 
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A mere hand on your arm while laughing is nothing. If you didn't think she was hot, you wouldn't think twice about it so you're kinda reaching for straws as your love life might be as dry as the Sahara at present.

A hand on your inner thigh creeping north is something. Come back and tell us all about it if/when that happens.
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