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Originally Posted by k374
Question for the men...
If you've started dating someone who made a low salary - not enough to afford to go out etc. and you made significantly more (say 2-3x) which scenario would you adopt?
#1:
Continue going to the same restaurants/hangouts, doing the same activities with the same frequency, taking her along for the same vacations you used to take... in essence not change a thing about your lifestyle KNOWING that your expenses are now going to effectively DOUBLE.
#2:
Downsize everything, go to cheaper restaurants, go less frequently, search for deals... go for cheaper vacations (preferably with deals), such that your budget roughly stays the same - THIS would be compromise in lifestyle to you.
#3:
Some combination of #1 and #2, especially go vacationing to more expensive places by yourself but go to cheaper places with her or expect her to save up and contribute what she can towards the vacation.
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It sounds like you can't comfortably/easily afford to constantly pay her way, whether it be eating out or vacationing. In that case, just start asking her if she can contribute (ask before the date happens so that she can budget or save). That should clear things up.
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