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I've been on match for about 2 months. I met 5 different guys and they were all very polite in person and did look like their pictures. I met one guy who I seemed to click with more than the others, and we've been dating a few weeks. Still trying to get a feel on his potential. Anyway, I know they can work. My best friend met her husband on match.
I think the difficult part is I really would like to meet someone fantastic and be in a serious relationship, but I think for it to work you have to just look at it as a way to meet new people and have fun. Don't take it too seriously, if that makes sense? And don't stop looking for opportunities to meet people in "real life" as well.
I finally joined because I don't meet a lot of new people. I go to work, and then I go home. Sometimes I meet friends out and about for drinks, but it's so difficult to pick up a decent relationship quality person out at a bar on the weekend. What can it hurt? If you don't like it, or it doesn't work for you, cancel your membership.
Don't become needy, and don't take it too personal if someone doesn't click with you. My friend went to depression when a guy said he wanted to stop dating after about 4 dates. She couldn't understand why and become obsessed with trying to win him over, even though she didn't really like him either. She just couldn't deal with rejection.
This is really excellent advice. I had one such experience early on, and I let myself be gobsmacked by the rejection. I mean, not to blow my own horn, but I'm a catch. What I didn't realize at the time was that he was the "hook-up" type — I'm not. You can't push a square peg into a round hole.
I was very frustrated with eHarmony because they kept sending me profiles of people who lived 180-300+ miles away. When I limited the geographic area I'd be willing to review profile from to a distance of 25 miles from my home I stopped getting profiles sent to me altogether. I live in a city with a metro area of a quarter of a million people. I had a hard time believing there wasn't anyone closer who would have been a good match.
^ that happened with me on eHarmony. Even in my big city it was rare they'd match me with someone less than 50 miles away. You still have to be careful with the person though. I ended up meeting a guy, who was older, but we seemed to have a bit in common. We dated for about a month before I found out he was in debt up to his eyeballs, about to lose his law practice and I suspect on hard drugs due to his personality. So although eHarmony seems to put it out there that their members are supposedly, for lack of a better word, 'better' than others, they still can end up the bottom of the barrel.
I dated someone I met on Match for 3 years on and off, but again he was 200 miles away. I agree with whomever said not to use it as an exclusive way to find dates, but as an inclusion to non-online activities.
I was very frustrated with eHarmony because they kept sending me profiles of people who lived 180-300+ miles away. When I limited the geographic area I'd be willing to review profile from to a distance of 25 miles from my home I stopped getting profiles sent to me altogether. I live in a city with a metro area of a quarter of a million people. I had a hard time believing there wasn't anyone closer who would have been a good match.
I got that too. I also got profiles of men who looked old enough to be my father, even though they weren't that much older than I am. Also, those who weren't fit.
I'm very young looking and very fit, almost eerily so for my age. I don't expect men in that age range to look 20 years younger than they are, but the physical disparities were simply too great.
Go ahead and see what it's like. I guess if you try it and like it, then you found a vehicle to dating or whatever. I tried it twice and it was a disaster. Then someone put me on to the fact, that if you put a picture up there and you're unattractive to men -- they will not respond or they will respond looking for '**** buddies.' They scroll through the pictures and contact the best looking ones, b/c that's all they care about anyways. So, waste of my time completely.
i would highly recommend plentyoffish (POF.com â„¢ The Leading Free Online Dating Site for Singles & Personals). It's a completely free site, completely - there's no catch. They also have mobile apps. There's tons of people on the site as well. Another free site is matchdoctor. My personal findings is that matchdoctor has less people overall then plentyoffish - but they're both free and both sites have forums where you can inter-act on a non-dating level with everyone from the site - and often times you can learn a lot about someone by how they interact with others on the forums. All the best!
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Anyway, I know they can work. My best friend met her husband on match. 
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