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Originally Posted by lovesMountains
It will only end when you seek out some serious counseling to better understand WHY in the world you would volunteer to live this way.
You need professional guidance to get to the bottom of your issues and learn how to make healthy choices for yourself.
Please make an appt today.
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This.
For better or worse, we make some poor choices in life sometimes; it happens.
Sometimes those choices are emotional, and we truly CAN get caught up in a whirlwind of feelings, of choices, by things that seem like realizations at the time.
That doesn't make you a bad person.
However...
Actions speak louder than words. Things happen, we roll with the punches, and when the object of our affections gives us excuses, we WANT to believe those, and pursue that belief.
It allows such things to happen again.... and again.... and again. Little things, small delays... then larger.
There comes a time when you have to start waking up, REALLY asking yourself -- not your question of "will this ever end", but the REAL question concerning you and Mystery Woman:
IS this ever going to HAPPEN?
Because you've been keeping yourself -- yes, keeping YOURSELF on a roller-coaster since mid-2010.
You're approaching the two-year mark of what I can understand began as clumsy, not-optimal ENDINGS for two separate relationships in the semi-rushed, half-baked hope of beginning a third, the one where you two "felt like you never felt with anyone else before" and had this crazy dream for starting a life together, that dream life where everything was different.
Only...
You're still waiting. You've taken your steps, done your part, and even though STEPS have been taken on her part, those were taken with what appears to be reluctance.
And steps BACKWARD have been taken since.
You're going nowhere with this.
It IS time to wake up and either wash your hands and walk away, OR at least ask for concrete answers rather than hopes and vagaries.
Are you two going to ACTUALLY get together?
Has she said anything more promising than "I hope so"....?
I said at the beginning of this:
For better or worse, we make some poor choices in life sometimes; it happens.
That doesn't mean you have to KEEP making them.
Your life is wasting away waiting on a woman who plans to keep dawdling. You know what separates that couple who GET together from that couple who aren't really a couple and do NOT get together?
Intent.
You're not a goal; you were a pleasant thing to make her feel special and occupy her time, an interactive daydream who provided attention.
Time to man up and walk away.