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There could be a variety of reasons your friends are saying those things. It could be that if they are single themselves, then proclaiming how no one needs a partner is a kind of defense mechanism. Kinda like how ex-smokers can suddenly become intolerant of any cigarette smoke in their vicinity or the way an ex-alcoholic sometimes comes to regard anyone who drinks even a small amount of liquor as an alcoholic. Therefore, anyone who even expresses a desire for a relationship is automatically a weak person who can't be alone.
It could also be that the OP is one of those people who is very, very particular or a very independent person who needs to have things her way/under her control. This can make it hard to date, and the friends may be reacting out of frustration when suitors are rejected over and over. It's hard to say.
In any case, I think people are the most happy if they can find a loving partner that they are content with. However, if that is not possible for some reason, its far better to be single than in a relationship that is severely dysfunctional. Many people are happy as single people and find fulfillment elsewhere.
ya, one of my friends that accused me of this, is single herself. She even admitted to me that she has days herself that she feels bummed about it but I'm not allowed to have days like that..weird. I've also dated a lot more than her with no luck. She has a long way to go before she can be as annoyed as me.
I'm not very particular. I'm emotionally independent because I have to be. I meet mostly attractive and good men but that stupid thing called chemistry never moves anything forward because its just not there. It tends to be a mutual thing though.
I agree, I'd much rather be alone than be in a dysfunctional relationship but I'd be most happy if I could find a good partner.
You'll find out the truth about those one day as well... Sooner or later, it always comes out.
lol..what? that they have ulterior motives? I'm not worried about that..they all know where I stand. Its really hard to even make friends in this town. People are just not very sociable.
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And I don't get why you let what your friends think bother you. I don't even let what my grown kids think bother me. And we're close. Don't like the way I think or live my life? Lucky for you that's why it's called MY life.....MY opinion....
And I don't get why you let what your friends think bother you. I don't even let what my grown kids think bother me. And we're close. Don't like the way I think or live my life? Lucky for you that's why it's called MY life.....MY opinion....
It doesn't really bother me..I just don't get why people pretend it doesn't matter. It does..as evident by the sheer fact that there is even a relationship forum!
A lot has changed in the last 20 years and a lot of certain people treat relationships as a game. And the government is heavily involved in people's personal lives and women are always interfering in their friends' relationships, making judgments of other people's personal decisions.
Which is why there's an alarming number of men stepping back from relationships.
A lot has changed in the last 20 years and a lot of certain people treat relationships as a game. And the government is heavily involved in people's personal lives and women are always interfering in their friends' relationships, making judgments of other people's personal decisions.
Which is why there's an alarming number of men stepping back from relationships.
I agree..its sad.
Sierra-lol...oh well. Most of them are in relationships/married..the ones who are single already told me how they feel. They can keep trying but I won't change my mind.
It doesn't really bother me..I just don't get why people pretend it doesn't matter. It does..as evident by the sheer fact that there is even a relationship forum!
I continue to be baffled by you being single. Oh to be a young man! I would HAVE to give it my best shot! I mean DAMN!
There have been points in my life where having a relationship mattered and times where it didn't matter and I really didn't want one. Right now I'm at place where I really want one. Being single sucks when you're ready to be in a relationship. My friend also accused me of needing a man to be happy and not being happy on my own when I told her I wished I had a relationship. There's a big difference between WANT and NEED. If I needed a relationship I'd latch onto any willing guy I could, but because I want one I'm waiting for the right relationship.
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