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Old 03-06-2012, 04:25 PM
 
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First i wanna say i love her to the bottom of my heart but sometimes i hate her so much it's unbelievable.

Well the thing is, me and my girlfriend are together for about 2 months now, and well yeah she is kinda my first TRUE love (I've had lots of girlfriends before but i never felt like this). I love her and i don't wanna lose her, but her actions make me crazy and make me wanna break up.. She always tries to make me jealous (She always tells me how guy are hitting on her and s*** and i know she likes it cause i think she needs all of the attention), i don't know why since i give enough compliments but sometimes i think my attention isn't enough for her. Everyday she tells me she loves me and never wanna lose me but i can't live with nor without her. I HATE how she always looks for attention, I HATE how she talks about other guys, I HATE how she's pissed when other girls talk to me, I HATE how manipulative she is, I HATE the fact she is a shopping maniac who always asks me for money (I don't have much but she get's everything she wants since i'm crazy about her). Yet, I LOVE HER!

I don't know what i should do since i really don't wanna lose her but staying with her might affect my personality. The thought of her going to another guy makes me crazy, i know she wouldn't go to another guy immediatly but in time she will. (I hate the thought of her having sex with someone else)

I'm asking you for help because i'm not the type of guy who would talk with other people about this, I don't show it neither i'm just dying inside. Help would be appreciated! Thanks
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Old 03-06-2012, 04:30 PM
 
Location: Middle of the valley
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Can you look up a random definition of "true love", cause this ain't it.
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Old 03-06-2012, 04:31 PM
 
Location: Homeless
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First i wanna say i love her to the bottom of my heart but sometimes i hate her so much it's unbelievable.

Well the thing is, me and my girlfriend are together for about 2 months now, and well yeah she is kinda my first TRUE love (I've had lots of girlfriends before but i never felt like this). I love her and i don't wanna lose her, but her actions make me crazy and make me wanna break up.. She always tries to make me jealous (She always tells me how guy are hitting on her and s*** and i know she likes it cause i think she needs all of the attention), i don't know why since i give enough compliments but sometimes i think my attention isn't enough for her. Everyday she tells me she loves me and never wanna lose me but i can't live with nor without her. I HATE how she always looks for attention, I HATE how she talks about other guys, I HATE how she's pissed when other girls talk to me, I HATE how manipulative she is, I HATE the fact she is a shopping maniac who always asks me for money (I don't have much but she get's everything she wants since i'm crazy about her). Yet, I LOVE HER!

I don't know what i should do since i really don't wanna lose her but staying with her might affect my personality. The thought of her going to another guy makes me crazy, i know she wouldn't go to another guy immediatly but in time she will. (I hate the thought of her having sex with someone else)

I'm asking you for help because i'm not the type of guy who would talk with other people about this, I don't show it neither i'm just dying inside. Help would be appreciated! Thanks

Your in trouble already! Good luck! Might want to play the lottery.
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Old 03-06-2012, 04:32 PM
 
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There are so many things you don't like about her personality, what exactly do you like about her?

Oh wait, it's the sex, isn't it? Well it's simple then. Find a new sex partner.
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Old 03-06-2012, 04:34 PM
 
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You both sound very young. Game playing gets tiresome after awhile, you'll figure it out
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Old 03-06-2012, 04:37 PM
 
Location: Falls Church, VA
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sweetheart... what you feel is not love, it is infatuation. I think 2 months into a relationship is not quite enough to be in love... perhaps in lust?

Regardless, why are you letting this person treat you like dirt? if what you have said is true, she is an opportunistic brat who is only with you because she needs the attention, and clearly yours is not enough...

Somene that truly cares for you, will never make you feel like you are not good enough for her, will never play this head games she is playing with you.

You already know what she is doing is not right, you already "hate" her behaviour, and I think you already know what you have to do. Ask your self this: Is this misery you are going through worth staying with her?
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Old 03-06-2012, 04:38 PM
 
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KendrickL...can you at least tell us some of the things you LOVE about her????.......so we can get a few of the pros with the cons?
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Old 03-06-2012, 04:41 PM
 
Location: The Great State of Arkansas
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Kendrick, this could possibly be your first AND YOUR LAST post here - you won't find sympathy or advice on a 2-month "true love" relationship that has you in knots over basic insecurity.

Read all the posts above. Read again. Rinse, repeat. She's playing games, you'll think you're gonna die when she flies the coop. You won't. You'll also learn some lessons along the way and won't be quite as eager to be a doormat and a checkbook in the future.

Yes, life is good! Get out there and find someone who appreciates you and who doesn't do.......well, whatever all those things were that you listed as hates in your note. You're not in love, just in heat.
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Old 03-06-2012, 04:43 PM
 
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First i wanna say i love her to the bottom of my heart but sometimes i hate her so much it's unbelievable.

Well the thing is, me and my girlfriend are together for about 2 months now, and well yeah she is kinda my first TRUE love (I've had lots of girlfriends before but i never felt like this). I love her and i don't wanna lose her, but her actions make me crazy and make me wanna break up.. She always tries to make me jealous (She always tells me how guy are hitting on her and s*** and i know she likes it cause i think she needs all of the attention), i don't know why since i give enough compliments but sometimes i think my attention isn't enough for her. Everyday she tells me she loves me and never wanna lose me but i can't live with nor without her. I HATE how she always looks for attention, I HATE how she talks about other guys, I HATE how she's pissed when other girls talk to me, I HATE how manipulative she is, I HATE the fact she is a shopping maniac who always asks me for money (I don't have much but she get's everything she wants since i'm crazy about her). Yet, I LOVE HER!

I don't know what i should do since i really don't wanna lose her but staying with her might affect my personality. The thought of her going to another guy makes me crazy, i know she wouldn't go to another guy immediatly but in time she will. (I hate the thought of her having sex with someone else)

I'm asking you for help because i'm not the type of guy who would talk with other people about this, I don't show it neither i'm just dying inside. Help would be appreciated! Thanks

So quit being as childish, needy and immature as she is and leave already. Just be prepared to go back again and break up and go back until you realize she is bat poop crazy and things will never change with her.
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Old 03-06-2012, 05:08 PM
 
Location: Austin
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OP, right now you're in the throes of new love. Your irritation is tempered by your physical and emotional desire to have this woman. The limerence phase of a relationship can be really confusing.

Trust me ... once the bright-shiny new wears off, you will get sick of her sh*t so quick it won't be funny.

In the meantime, it's up to you to decide what to do. People who care about each other don't go out of their way to make each other jealous. That ain't love. This relationship has all of the earmarkings of a big time drain, if you ask me.
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