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bkern1989 · 03-06-2012, 11:58 PM

So there is this girl I use to be close to and her birthday is coming up. We were once pretty close...almost dating, but she ended up giving in to my former friend and her and I haven't talked in awhile. That's not an issue, but I figured people would ask why we didn't talk anymore. Anyway, I don't think there is a future with us anymore, but I still want her to be happy on her birthday. Would it make any sense to have something (Flowers and/or chocolate) mailed to her anonymously, or should I go ahead and put my name on it?

MIKEETC · 03-07-2012, 12:13 AM

Put your name on it or don't do it at all. You state you want to give her something to make her happy. Fair enough. Make her happy because you were thinking of her, because you wanted her to know it, because you wanted to give her something, and because her happy makes you happy.

That's a lot of 'you' but you may as well be bold and let her know it's you.

[who knows, she may start thinking about you, too (if she isn't already)]

elnina · 03-07-2012, 12:27 AM

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Originally Posted by MIKEETC

[who knows, she may start thinking about you, too (if she isn't already)]

^^^ That's the whole purpose, isn't ??

temptation001 · 03-07-2012, 12:28 AM

Put your name on it. Someone else might take credit for it.

MIKEETC · 03-07-2012, 12:33 AM

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Originally Posted by elnina

^^^ That's the whole purpose, isn't ??

That's why I'd do it. Not putting his name on the gift guarantees that it won't happen.

[wasted effort]

bkern1989 · 03-07-2012, 12:47 AM

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Originally Posted by MIKEETC

Put your name on it or don't do it at all. You state you want to give her something to make her happy. Fair enough. Make her happy because you were thinking of her, because you wanted her to know it, because you wanted to give her something, and because her happy makes you happy.

That's a lot of 'you' but you may as well be bold and let her know it's you.

[who knows, she may start thinking about you, too (if she isn't already)]

Didn't take long to solve that problem. Thanks for telling me what I should have already knew! Lol.

wisconsin woman · 03-07-2012, 04:44 AM

I was thinking the same, about not being annonymous. Either someone else would take credit for it, or some people wont accept it, not knowing if it was a stalker or someone who shouldnt be giving gifts to another woman...you know.
But too, she may already be thinking of you, why be secretive about it.

Rakin · 03-07-2012, 06:07 AM

Don't do....

"I think I love you and want you to have my baby. Happy Birthday" From: Bkern

But do: Happy Birthday, Bkern

She will think it's super sweet, not overly aggressive yet get BKern a Birthday gift that Bkern might really like.

bobman · 03-07-2012, 06:23 AM

So, you care enough about this person to want to send them a gift, but you don't care enough to want to put a dispute behind you and put things straight ?

IMHO you are not sending a gift to make the recipient feel better, but to make you feel better.

Either have the courage to put your name to it, or don't send it.

RedJohn · 03-07-2012, 06:26 AM

Do it ...!

We only live once though; don't just wait and then wonder later on about the "What ifs?"

I wouldn't be overly agressive about it, but if you feel like you want to give her a gift, why not. It only shows that you actually care about her and that you are willing to go the extra mile to be nice to her. Good luck ...!

Regards.