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Originally Posted by Skydive Outlaw
I was in a relationship for 18 months a few years ago where the woman I was with did not love me. She initially idealized and overvalued me, but never loved me. She was unable to love another person period. Her claim that she loved me was nothing more than her initial lust and infatuation causing her in a very immature way to idealize and overvalue me and it had nothing to do with love. Once again. . . she was and incapable of loving another person in any way.
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Your post sums up my experience with one of my LT S.O.s. Very infatuated in the beginning and totally into me with undue enthusiasm. Not to say that I'm a terrible person — I definitely was/am worthy of love. But whenever someone idealizes me or makes a preconceived judgment that I'm "all that" without getting to know me first, that's a huge red flag. It's simply impossible to proclaim it "love" when you don't know very much about someone. At least that's been my experience.
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