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Old 09-10-2007, 11:01 AM
 
Location: Charlotte, NC
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Default Robbing the cradle

So I was out this past weekend eating my 2nd dinner with some friends and I decided it would be fun to flirt with the waiter. There was something gross in my water so I returned it and asked him to make it up to me by giving me my martini on the house. When the bill came, he said he couldn't take the martini off of my bill so my friend told him that he would have to give me a back massage, instead. So, after he washed his hands and asked his manager's permission, he gave me a 2 minutes massage at the table :-). My friends asked him how old he was and he said 23 (which is what I had guessed) and they said, "awww, 'cause her limit is 26." Anyway, in the end, my friend wrote my phone # on the bill and he actually ended up coming over on the way out (before seeing my phone number) with his "business card." It was actually really cute and he was really cute but he's 23! I'm 30, btw!

I realize that 30 year old guys date 23 year old women all the time (in fact so do 40 and 50 year old guys--yuck.) But is it ridiculous of me to go out with him? My friends said that we look the same age so it wouldn't be an issue of people looking at us crazy if we went out together. I'm pretty sure this couldn't possibly turn into anything serious but I'm not having an easy time finding anyone my own age to date. Two years ago, I tried dating a 22 year old and I felt like that was ridiculous but I was in a college town and there wasn't anyone single my age there so it was more of a companionship thing. But now, I'm a different decade! As usual, I'm curious about everyone's thoughts!
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Old 09-10-2007, 11:05 AM
 
Location: Missouri
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GO FOR IT!!! I personally wouldn't take it too seriously (23 year old men IMO generally aren't ready for marriage, kids, etc.) but it could be a heck of a lot of fun.
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Old 09-10-2007, 11:12 AM
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Location: Capitan, NM
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Have fun. Go out a few times. It's not like it's going to turn into a serious relationship.
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Old 09-10-2007, 11:47 AM
 
Location: Indiana
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nothing wrong with that Im 32 and my wife is 26 we are 6 years apart no big deal and as long as you 2 are ok with it then it is ok
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Old 09-10-2007, 11:58 AM
 
Location: Camano Island, WA
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It's a little early to be thinking yay or nay on whether it will be serious.
No one can say what the outcome will be.
I don't think I have ever gone into a relationship thinking "this is the one!!".

Just have fun...be yourself...don't put so much of an emphasis on what could be...just let it happen. Things happen when you least expect it.
And really, who cares about the age difference?

On a side note...my last serious relationship he was 12 yrs younger than I.
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Old 09-10-2007, 12:04 PM
 
Location: Naptowne, Alaska
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I think you'd better go out with him...if nothing else, to get over the age difference issue you seem to have. Don't worry about what the "others" are gonna think. You keep that up and you may be sitting there feeling lonely for a long time to come. There are no set of rules stating anyone has to be within a certain age limit. Live your life for you...not what others think you should or should not do. You never know...it might be the relationship of a lifetime. Seems like a nice enough guy from what info you've given us. Do yourself (and maybe him) a favor...go out with him! Of course he may or may not be at your level of maturity...but then he may be more mature than his age. You'll never know until you take the plunge. Go for it!
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Old 09-10-2007, 12:10 PM
 
Location: Somewhere out there.
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I know people get stuck on numbers but I really think that one should take into consideration the maturity/intellectual capacity of both parties and give people a chance... even if they are older/younger. A 23 year old may have something more to offer than their age would suggest.
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Old 09-10-2007, 12:11 PM
 
Location: Camano Island, WA
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I think you'd better go out with him...if nothing else, to get over the age difference issue you seem to have. Don't worry about what the "others" are gonna think. You keep that up and you may be sitting there feeling lonely for a long time to come


Exactly!...


Life is too short for missed opportunities....
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Old 09-10-2007, 12:36 PM
 
Location: New England
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That age difference isn't even noteworthy. Now go ride 'em cowgirl and report back.
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Old 09-10-2007, 12:42 PM
 
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When my dh and I met he was 26 and I was 34. It's never been an issue for us. Have fun!
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