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Old 03-12-2012, 09:27 PM
 
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If I lived on another planet, I might be inclined to agree with you. But, I don't and I don't. I spend a lot of time out and about and I know who I see at museums and concerts and who I see at star bucks and the mall. So save your claim for someone who will buy it.
Love the generalizations.

I don't go to "char"bucks or the mall but I do LOVE to travel and hit up the museums and aboretums/nature preserves in my area.

 
Old 03-12-2012, 10:42 PM
 
Location: Bellingham, WA
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Make sure whatever bosses they work for has whips. That'll teach them not to whine or cry when they get tired.
Yes, you have to establish your authority early on. Maybe make examples of a few of the more uppity kids.
 
Old 03-12-2012, 10:57 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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My husband always hoped that we would be well enough off financially so that I could be a SAHM if I wanted to be. I think he always hoped that I would be but he was fine with whatever decision I made. Well, at this point in my career - going back to work right away wasn't really a possibility. And to be honest - I don't think I would have wanted to anyway. My son is almost 7 months old right now - and I love being a SAHM. It's HARD work - really hard. I'm exhausted by the end of each day. The house is actually not clean at all - I'm hoping that once he gets a little older I'll actually find more time to clean! Right now - I spend my days feeding, washing dishes, doing laundry, walking with my baby and my dog, grocery shopping, and exercising as much as I can find the time for. It's exhausting! But as tiring as it is - I'm glad that I'm the one that gets to take care of my son. I love that I see every little thing that he does. I'm glad that we get to spend all day together.
Oh - and my husband knows what hard work it is staying at home with our baby all day. He's watched our little man for an evening a few times and he was exhausted by it! He says he doesn't understand how I can get anything done all day! I'm sure it will get easier as he gets older, and I'm sure when we have another I'll be much more experienced so things will go more smoothly - but for right now - things are hard but sooooo rewarding.
This being said - I think that as long as a family puts their family first - it doesn't matter if one parent stays at home or if they both work. There are parents that stay at home that are lousy parents and there are parents that both work that are lousy parents. I don't think there is a right way or a wrong way as long as the family comes first. And in terms of cost - well, I think that a lot of people on here have no idea how expensive child care can be.
 
Old 03-12-2012, 10:59 PM
 
Location: In my view finder.....
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No way......not even stay at HER home girlfriend, let alone stay at MY home wife.( I paid for it)
 
Old 03-12-2012, 11:16 PM
 
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My husband always hoped that we would be well enough off financially so that I could be a SAHM if I wanted to be. I think he always hoped that I would be but he was fine with whatever decision I made. Well, at this point in my career - going back to work right away wasn't really a possibility. And to be honest - I don't think I would have wanted to anyway. My son is almost 7 months old right now - and I love being a SAHM. It's HARD work - really hard. I'm exhausted by the end of each day. The house is actually not clean at all - I'm hoping that once he gets a little older I'll actually find more time to clean! Right now - I spend my days feeding, washing dishes, doing laundry, walking with my baby and my dog, grocery shopping, and exercising as much as I can find the time for. It's exhausting! But as tiring as it is - I'm glad that I'm the one that gets to take care of my son. I love that I see every little thing that he does. I'm glad that we get to spend all day together.
Oh - and my husband knows what hard work it is staying at home with our baby all day. He's watched our little man for an evening a few times and he was exhausted by it! He says he doesn't understand how I can get anything done all day! I'm sure it will get easier as he gets older, and I'm sure when we have another I'll be much more experienced so things will go more smoothly - but for right now - things are hard but sooooo rewarding.
This being said - I think that as long as a family puts their family first - it doesn't matter if one parent stays at home or if they both work. There are parents that stay at home that are lousy parents and there are parents that both work that are lousy parents. I don't think there is a right way or a wrong way as long as the family comes first. And in terms of cost - well, I think that a lot of people on here have no idea how expensive child care can be.
Was it really necessary for the acronym sahm? Unbelievable!
 
Old 03-12-2012, 11:19 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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Was it really necessary for the acronym sahm? Unbelievable!
Umm.... sorry? It just seemed so much easier to type and people on here use it all the time. Unbelievable!!!
 
Old 03-12-2012, 11:37 PM
 
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Was it really necessary for the acronym sahm? Unbelievable!
Of course it's necessary. Do you really need anyone to write out stay-at-home-Mum when an acronym is perfect?
 
Old 03-12-2012, 11:41 PM
 
Location: 39 20' 59"N / 75 30' 53"W
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Of course it's necessary. Do you really need anyone to write out stay-at-home-Mum when an acronym is perfect?
If thats the only thing he can take from her post, I doubt he read past SAHM.
 
Old 03-13-2012, 06:15 AM
 
Location: Middle America
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I wonder why the husbands automatically feel they would want their wife to stay home if they have children. Do any actually consider that they would stay home once there are children.
Among the couples I know, it's entirely dependent upon who is the higher earner. In the case of my former college roommate, he's been a reference librarian for years. His wife is a software engineer. They just had their second child, and he's recently become the stay-at-home parent. In my case, I'm a teacher, and my partner is a corporate accountant. Doing the math on who's paycheck is better for the household, were it to come down to one paycheck or the other being the sole financial support, is not too tough. That said, I still don't see a world where I wouldn't need to work.
 
Old 03-13-2012, 06:20 AM
 
Location: Middle America
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No. The purpose of getting married to me is to have two incomes.
Hah! I'd make sure you're up front about that being your sole purpose, should the opportunity arise.
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