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Old 03-15-2012, 12:16 PM
 
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Originally Posted by redvelvet709 View Post
I believe you are correct in this, but getting the ladies to be honest about it to themselves is a big step. It's as if they don't want to admit the intrinsic and instictive modes are alive and well inside.
That simply isn't true. I know for myself I hated staying at home, it was boring and mindless work for me. I know many other women who felt the same way as I did. They enjoyed being in the workforce, interacting with adults and earning money.

Each to their own, some people like staying at home, others don't. At least, as women today, have a choice in the matter. If this were 100 years ago we'd all be at home barefoot and pregnant.

 
Old 03-15-2012, 08:34 PM
 
Location: between here and there
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I don't get this sentiment.

I've worked outside the home for years, know the world of navigating high-pressure careers. If I become a parent and go on sabbatical to be home with my child, for whatever length of time I deem fit, I don't suddenly become a less intelligent person with only "a couple of brain cells to rub together." I think that it bears saying that parenting full-time is a choice, and one that can be made by intelligent, motivated people who find it to be the choice most in line with their priorities. The argument that it's the refuge of lazy morons with no job experience or ability is just plain meanspirited, as well as inaccurate.

I'm actually really proud of my mom, too (put her own career on hold to raise four children full-time, reentering the workforce when I went to college/my youngest sibling entered middle school). She was awfully selfless, but stuck to her guns and made a hard choice- to pause her own career in favor of something she found more personally important, with the knowledge that the choice would be disrespected by many and would represent a sacrifice of income. I really respect her convictions. Many couldn't/wouldn't make those sacrifices.
Well put and I agree.
 
Old 03-19-2012, 09:18 PM
 
Location: Mid-Atlantic
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I am so grateful that she wasn't a SAHM. Anyone with a couple of brain cells to rub together can do that.

I think I turned out really good, too.
 
Old 03-19-2012, 09:43 PM
 
Location: in your dreams
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Sounds chill right about now. lol
 
Old 03-22-2012, 01:39 PM
 
Location: The analog world
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Where do you find these men that not only earn a lot but are willing to take that kind of financial responsibility on?
We met and married as college students.
 
Old 03-22-2012, 01:55 PM
 
Location: between here and there
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As a mother of four who did the same thing as your mom, I want to say "thank you" for a spot-on post!!!!! I chose raising my children above having a career and do not regret it for a moment. It simple comes down to your priorities for a lot of parents. I know. We lived on one income and it wasn't an executive level pay. We became the masters of frugal living, did without material things that many can't live without.....

Today, my now grown kids with their own ladder climbing jobs reminisce fondly about the days when we lived the "little house on the prairie" existence as they recall it.....

Makes an old mom smile.....
 
Old 03-22-2012, 02:29 PM
 
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Well, if I can afford to support the both of us, then I don't mind if I have a stay at home wife. Especially if we have kids. I would rather that she's there with them instead of taking them to a babysitter in the morning. If I can't though, then homegirl is going to have a 9 to 5.
 
Old 04-22-2012, 08:32 PM
 
Location: ATL
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Yes but she has to do her duties and I will do mine
 
Old 04-22-2012, 08:45 PM
 
Location: So Cal
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That simply isn't true. I know for myself I hated staying at home, it was boring and mindless work for me. I know many other women who felt the same way as I did. They enjoyed being in the workforce, interacting with adults and earning money.

Each to their own, some people like staying at home, others don't. At least, as women today, have a choice in the matter. If this were 100 years ago we'd all be at home barefoot and pregnant.

I think the real key, is like you said, women today have a choice. Women in western cultures are doing well.

Same can't be said for other parts of the world. Some of the oppression and brutally is mind numbing... in 2012 women are still be stoned to death for nonsense like being raped and "dishonoring" the family.

Some sick twisted and f ing warped thinking out there.....
 
Old 04-22-2012, 08:47 PM
 
Location: Rutherfordton,NC
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I'd personally prefer a women who wants to work no mater how much money I made. It's been my experience that women get bored & stressed out quickly, not saying all women here but when they get bored they tend to want some excitement which bodes badly for the marriage.
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