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I can understand that's what you want, and certainly acknowledge you have that right. But from one guy who "waited" (though not as long as you) to another, I can't understand the logic of requiring her to be a virgin.
you probably feel that way now of course since you've had sex....I don't see why he has to change what he wants, I don't see anyone else doing that when it comes to other issues. I think he will probably have to find someone younger, b/c then the chances are better or go for the really devout types. But I don't know why it keeps being reiterated to 'just accept these girls too despite the fact it's not what you want'. That's what it's seems like.
you probably feel that way now of course since you've had sex....I don't see why he has to change what he wants, I don't see anyone else doing that when it comes to other issues. I think he will probably have to find someone younger, b/c then the chances are better or go for the really devout types. But I don't know why it keeps being reiterated to 'just accept these girls too despite the fact it's not what you want'. That's what it's seems like.
I am in no way pushing him to "change what he wants", only giving my opinion that it makes more sense to value a person's CURRENT outlook on sex over their past. He may very well find his virgin girl, but what if she's only a virgin because she's never had a boyfriend? What if, for one reason or another, she wants to rush into having sex?
I just don't understand it. He can do what he wants, but I don't understand it.
you probably feel that way now of course since you've had sex....I don't see why he has to change what he wants, I don't see anyone else doing that when it comes to other issues. I think he will probably have to find someone younger, b/c then the chances are better or go for the really devout types. But I don't know why it keeps being reiterated to 'just accept these girls too despite the fact it's not what you want'. That's what it's seems like.
My my my.
If people want to have a very, very small pool to choose from, certainly choose virgins only. No one is saying not to.
But, if you're not finding what you want in the very, very small sampling available to you, you can either increase your sample pool or suffer the consequences.
Keep in mind that just because someone is a virgin, that doesn't mean that they'll meet anything else you want/like in your life.
I am in no way pushing him to "change what he wants", only giving my opinion that it makes more sense to value a person's CURRENT outlook on sex over their past. He may very well find his virgin girl, but what if she's only a virgin because she's never had a boyfriend? What if, for one reason or another, she wants to rush into having sex?
I just don't understand it. He can do what he wants, but I don't understand it.
But he can do what he wants!
well they don't value your current status over the past, they look at all of it and then judge you on it. that's how people are. I don't know what wrong with the second part.....
Doll Eyes, if you don't want to read my posts, put me on ignore.
Don't comment off-line; it makes me laugh and know that you read my comments since you insist on commenting outside of the thread.
How silly.
well they don't value your current status over the past, they look at all of it and then judge you on it. that's how people are.
Not me. My ex-wife of one single year was a virgin just like me when we got together, but (I found out later) she didn't share my views on sexual promiscuity. The result was a divorce, due to this and other ways we were incompatible. My current gf of 4 years was more sexually promiscuous than I before we met, but she sees everything on the subject the way I do now, making us far more compatible. The past simply shouldn't matter, in and of itself.
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I don't know what wrong with the second part......
What's "wrong" with her being a virgin solely because she never had a boyfriend is that it means she doesn't share PrinceCharming's view on sex after all. She just HAPPENS to be a virgin, but not by choice.
Not me. My ex-wife of one single year was a virgin just like me when we got together, but (I found out later) she didn't share my views on sexual promiscuity. The result was a divorce, due to this and other ways we were incompatible. My current gf of 4 years was more sexually promiscuous than I before we met, but she sees everything on the subject the way I do now, making us far more compatible. The past simply shouldn't matter, in and of itself.
What's "wrong" with her being a virgin solely because she never had a boyfriend is that it means she doesn't share PrinceCharming's view on sex after all. She just HAPPENS to be a virgin, but not by choice.
What do you mean she didn't share your views on 'sexual promiscuity?' if you're already married, why was that relevant? (unless she cheated?)....the past does matter to some extent, IMO, sometimes people do things and you wonder if they are 'still that same person' and then it makes it relevant -- but that's another thread I think....I see what you're saying about P.C. but I still think he can find someone who shares his views and be a virgin at the same time, I have met women like this. Even a few guys (but they were very religious and controlling). I was just saying I don't think he should have to alter his views on this if it's not what he wants, I'm sure he's aware he limits the dating pool by doing so. But again, other people have stipulations of this and that aren't being told to just change them outright. I dunno.
A British tabloid for sex advice?
You know this is the equivalent to the National Enquirer.
Who did the LDS interview? Members of their cult?
The article is big on speculation.
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I don't see anyone else doing that when it comes to other issues. I think he will probably have to find someone younger, b/c then the chances are better or go for the really devout types. But I don't know why it keeps being reiterated to 'just accept these girls too despite the fact it's not what you want'. That's what it's seems like.
