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So, my long distance thing fizzled out again, and I decided it was time to move on for good. I met someone on a dating site last month, and we're getting along great. We've gone out on 6 dates thus far, and have been intimate. Everything is going extremely well in all aspects, except that that I feel very self conscious about eventually sleeping over or being in some other situation where I don't get to present myself in my best light with hair/makeup, etc (like out on his boat in the summer). He is about a 9 on a scale of 1-10, and I consider myself about a 5, so he's much more attractive than I am. I'm actually in awe that such a good looking guy is interested in me.
I've always just been very self conscious about my looks in general. I have a condition that causes extreme dark circles under my eyes that are barely hidden decently by heavy concealer. I also hate my skin (acne scars, uneven skin tone, breakouts). I hate being seen without makeup. Plus, I straighten my hair because it's got really weird texture (half straight, half wavy with cowlicks) and gets really oily overnight. In all, I look like a completely different person when I'm au naturale in the mornings, and I'm scared to death for him to see me like that. I'm afraid that he'll not be attracted to me anymore, even though everything else is going so well.
Has anybody been in this situation? What happened, what did you do, how did you get over it?
I've wondered about this stuff as well. I'm a guy so I can't really provide any answers, but I've always been fascinated by the "night and day" effect of women's looks. You're definitely not alone in feeling like your looks fade first thing in the morning, tons of girls feel this way. Plus I'm sure he expects this.
No point misleading the innocent guy any further. Show him how ugly you look in the morning at the very earliest. Be honest. For the best effects, snap a picture of you with your smartphone right when you wake up, with messy hair or thinner hair or no hair, boogers, dried drool and stuffed eyes.
Congrats on your new relationship, he sounds like a great catch. I don't think you need any advice, if you are convinced that you are a 5, and he already went out with you several times and things are looking good, he's probably not as shallow as you give him credit for.
No point misleading the innocent guy any further. Show him how ugly you look in the morning at the very earliest. Be honest. For the best effects, snap a picture of you with your smartphone right when you wake up, with messy hair or thinner hair or no hair, boogers, dried drool and stuffed eyes.
So, my long distance thing fizzled out again, and I decided it was time to move on for good. I met someone on a dating site last month, and we're getting along great. We've gone out on 6 dates thus far, and have been intimate. Everything is going extremely well in all aspects, except that that I feel very self conscious about eventually sleeping over or being in some other situation where I don't get to present myself in my best light with hair/makeup, etc (like out on his boat in the summer). He is about a 9 on a scale of 1-10, and I consider myself about a 5, so he's much more attractive than I am. I'm actually in awe that such a good looking guy is interested in me.
I've always just been very self conscious about my looks in general. I have a condition that causes extreme dark circles under my eyes that are barely hidden decently by heavy concealer. I also hate my skin (acne scars, uneven skin tone, breakouts). I hate being seen without makeup. Plus, I straighten my hair because it's got really weird texture (half straight, half wavy with cowlicks) and gets really oily overnight. In all, I look like a completely different person when I'm au naturale in the mornings, and I'm scared to death for him to see me like that. I'm afraid that he'll not be attracted to me anymore, even though everything else is going so well.
Has anybody been in this situation? What happened, what did you do, how did you get over it?
You sound like someone with extremely low self-esteem.
Do you really believe that you look THAT different than you do now? You think he can't see the "real" you underneath everything?
Get a grip and enjoy yourself.
If he's shallow to the point where he can't deal with your "dark" circles, then he's not someone you'd want to be with anyway.
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