Life After Sex...

[Time and Space]

Originally Posted by Prairieparson

To the OP: Its very likely you turned down this woman because you just have gotten wiser and smarter. Free sex does not always equal a good time. Yes the first night maybe, but after, if something develops, things can get more complicated. And even a one night stand can be pretty empty and unsatisfying. RElationships with women can be demanding frustrating, expensive, and not worth the trouble. You get her pregnant, and wow, now you've really got expensive and for many years. Chaulk it up to wisdom and experience.

Your probably right...that and I've never been the 'player' type...

This woman was older, and drunk, and in the moment...

She had to of been cause they kept complimenting me...'D'oh'....

All I did was buy them a 'beer' and some 'chips' at the store, next thing you know they were on me like glue...

i was just trying to be a 'gentleman'...

But maybe in that part of town, being a 'gentleman' is so rare, that they were stunded...who knows...

[Joseph Marnix]

I think it is part integrity and self-respect.
You are a person of worth, and anyone you get on with should be worthy of you.
It's simple as that.

[Time and Space]

Originally Posted by elnina

I guess, as you get older you get wiser too. Sex and stuff is all nice and exciting, but yes, it is very important to have more in life than sex. That there is someone close you can have a meaningful conversation, someone who can give you a second opinion on things you ponder, someone to share your thoughts...

I agree with your post...

It's like the only way this woman thought she could have 'value' to me, was through 'whoopi'....

Where as if they had just simply asked 'So how was your day'....that would have done more to arouse my interest...

This lady needed to be loved...and I just wasn't the one...I tried to love them by respecting them....

And I hope they realize that...

[Trackwatch]

Are you sure she wasn't offering her "services" or it really was a she?

[Just One of the Guys]

If a woman who I didn't know was that persistant to have sex, I probably wouldn't have either. You just never know what she may have!!

[Time and Space]

Originally Posted by Trackwatch

Are you sure she wasn't offering her "services" or it really was a she?

It was an older woman, who was so endeared by me simply buying a few grocery items for them, when they didn't have the cash on them, that the only way (in their world) they thought they could repay me, was to get a room together and whatever....

That and they kept telling me I looked whatever....that parts subjective...but I do appreciate their compliments...

But from my stand point...I was just being kind to be kind...if it had been a male, I would of done the same thing...I helped them because they were a person in need, and at that moment I was in a postion to help, so i did...

In their world, that's rare...people just don't do that...

So they developed an instant crush on me I suppose...and offered me what I guess they've offered hundreds or dozens of men before...only I politely refused....

Sex just wasn't on my mind that night, and hardly ever is anymore in that sense...
I was out to have a good time, and laugh...to be amused by a witty person...but not to have 'sex'...

I'm at the point in my life where 'wit' turns me on...rapid fire wit...
Someone that can make me laugh and think at the same time...
That and knowing they'll be there long term...

People who want 'sex' while they're drunk, are usually very 'off' and 'on' types...
One minute their nice as a butterfly, the next morning their like the possesed lady in the movie 'The Evil Dead'...

Unfortunalty, most woman aren't use to men who want or see beyond sex...sex is a powerful control weapon...and most people, not just women, don't seem to know how to operate outside that perimeter...

[BECLAZONE]

That smell of gasoline, just gets you going, doesn’t it?

[Prince_Frog]

I'm just going to say that I've had some weird conversations at the gas pump.

Yes, this was one of those conversations.

No, I wasn't about to sex her up either. At that time sex was the furthest thing from my mind, and I'm more of a relationship first kinda guy.

[yellowsnow]

If some guy walked up to me at a gas station and asked me to go do the wild thing, my answer would be something like, not in a million years. Picking up a man like that just doesn't interest me.

And if he's out looking for women like that, he's probably diseased too. No thanks!

[Time and Space]

That's gross....

And I don't look at people as 'diseased' or not 'diseased'...

Nor do I predetermine how I'm going to respond to anyone...cause every situation is unique....

And this woman was clearly wanting to feel 'young' again...to be swept away by 'the man of her dreams'....to 'live the romance one more time'...

But it wasn't happening with me...

What that lady needed was a loving Father....I could look into her eyes and tell she never had one...

To me the whole situation was sad...