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And NO ladies...I would NOT file charges against my spouse for that. Ruin your record and such for a temporary lack of control??? Nah, ain't gonna happen.
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Originally Posted by Huckleberry3911948
how sad, u view men being hit or allowing it to happen as cowardice??? its the old "be a man" thing.
did it ever occur to you that his restraint is in fact his being a man? or that other men dont talk about it out of respect?
why are we not discussing the lack of self control and the violence in women instead of discussing his manhood?
what has his manhood got to do with your bad behavior?
btw domestic violence is 50/50 unlike what the gloria steinem people were teaching 25 years ago in CPS (its all about him).
I'm saying if you don't have the guts to speak up about it, don't confuse your silence with other people being ok with it. It's not ok for anyone to abuse another, man or woman. I have no respect for anyone who abuses another, much less, want to know or even speak with them. I will say the same to a woman who's being abused, GTF out of there! If you think it's risking your life to leave, what is staying? Risking your life! GTF out! And don't keep silent about it then accuse others of thinking it's ok.
On the victim's end: You should always resolve the matter in the most peaceful way possible, as I said before. Most of the time (though not all), you can defend yourself without hitting. People should avoid hitting whenever possible no matter who they're in a dispute with, even if both parties are the same gender. That's whether it makes you a "real man" or not.
On the attacker's end: There is no excuse for hitting/slapping during a dispute, no matter who you are. You should be both ashamed and punished, and society and the law should see to it that you are. It doesn't matter if you managed to hurt someone to a degree you would consider "enough". I get a ticket for speeding whether I cause an accident or not. Your actions are enough to be judged upon.
On the victim's end: You should always resolve the matter in the most peaceful way possible, as I said before. Most of the time (though not all), you can defend yourself without hitting. People should avoid hitting whenever possible no matter who they're in a dispute with, even if both parties are the same gender. That's whether it makes you a "real man" or not.
On the attacker's end: There is no excuse for hitting/slapping during a dispute, no matter who you are. You should be both ashamed and punished, and society and the law should see to it that you are. It doesn't matter if you managed to hurt someone to a degree you would consider "enough". I get a ticket for speeding whether I cause an accident or not. Your actions are enough to be judged upon.
no friend its not about problem resolution, its not about most of time u can resolve w/o hitting, or manhood or womanhood, its not about shame
its about criminal behavior its about breaking the law, its about assaulting family members in the home. its about abuse.
its about domestic violence. its about a woman teaching her children the wrong way to live and them growing to be just like her.
what is sad is women on CDF believe a gal that will attack a 6 ft man with weapons would never do anything to the little kids in the home. LOL. what do u think domestic violence unit in CPS does all day? do u believe that the kid fell down or that the AP did those cuts bruises and scars? connect the dots friend. the monster in the home does not stop by assaulting daddy, she is warming up. daddy was often the protection wall for those kids against monster mommy. monster mommy is something not discussed much is it.
stop the abuse.
enough.
Last edited by Huckleberry3911948; 03-20-2012 at 08:56 AM..
I had an ex hit me in the stones *twice* in HS for no reason. In general, I say don't hit a woman back, especially if you earned why she hit you, but I don't even remember why she'd hit me in the first place. Instinct made me swing back both times (nowhere critical, I caught her on the arm both times). She learned after the second one. In hindsight, that probably should have told me something, but I was young, stubborn and had hormones. That said, I wouldn't even dream of laying a finger on my wife in anger. If we get into an argument or something of the sort, I'll walk away to give us both time to cool down. Works well and we rarely argue.
A guy who called the cops in a situation where he was getting beaten by a woman, would most likely get arrested himself.
Could be another reason why men rather just keep it quiet.
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