No happy ending for her... (movies, guys, lover, younger)

[GOBBARK]

Originally Posted by ChiGuy2.5

Shes the first one I have never been able to please like that. Although she still enjoys sex, she said its never happened. Almost like she has just given up on it herself... which surprises me.




Shes been on top, she was really good at it! Maybe thats a clue that she enjoys it? Thanks for the tip Moon!

I can't take this anymore bro. You need to try a straight back wooden chair. You sit there and let her do the work. The wooden chair doesn't bounce like a bed. She controls everything and it makes it easy as pie for her. If that doesn't work, try grabbing her ankles and throwing both over one shoulder. If you are packing pretty good, things should get pretty tight. I wish I could help more. Trying to keep this PG-13.

[GOBBARK]

[katykat01]

Agreed. Thank for your reply. I understand its too early yet. Although, I also don't think she is lying when she says she has never...

It doesn't matter whether or not she has finished with anyone, since she's with YOU and (hopefully) not anyone else. Don't focus on her past, but instead on what's going on with you two. I'd say back off the sex and get to know HER, not just how to physically please her, but emotionally and intellectually please her. By getting to her heart and her brain, you're going to have a much, MUCH easier time pleasing her sexually. That's the real key, not just finding which buttons to push, so to speak.

As someone who's done the f--- buddy thing and had serious relationships, it's a lot easier to open up about sex when you know and TRUST the person. Some people are more reserved sexually until you really get to know them - she sounds like one of them. She may fear you'll judge whatever it is that helps her finish. Or she just doesn't want to experience that with you for whatever reason.

I know that as soon as I had an orgasm with a guy (if it was really early in the getting-to-know process) that I would lose interest entirely, like I had just cut to the chase and there wasn't anything else left to explore, so I got bored and ended it. In fact, I can even remember one specific time that I hooked up with a guy very early on - and he was gorgeous! - and I came. The second that orgasm ended, I lost interest. I literally felt myself lose interest in him and didn't care to see him anymore.

[LS Jaun]

Originally Posted by katykat01

TIME. She doesn't know you or trust you yet.

True! at 24 I'm sure only 1/2 the woman out the can reach an "O" and with a partner it's even less.

It's all in her hands (Actually head). On the other hand my old girl friend could not even eek out 1 the first through fourth time we were together. After a year it was rolling Orgasms, one after the next the whole time.

Little bit of alcohol, if she drinks. Lots of foreplay, and if all else fails bring an Hitachi.

[Sherifftruman]

Originally Posted by katykat01

I know that as soon as I had an orgasm with a guy (if it was really early in the getting-to-know process) that I would lose interest entirely, like I had just cut to the chase and there wasn't anything else left to explore, so I got bored and ended it. In fact, I can even remember one specific time that I hooked up with a guy very early on - and he was gorgeous! - and I came. The second that orgasm ended, I lost interest. I literally felt myself lose interest in him and didn't care to see him anymore.

That is so interesting. So, for you, everything else but the O is what's most important? Not saying its not important to me also, but I just don't understand not wanting that feeling at the end (or middle or a few times during) every single time?

I'm like the OP. I would have a hard time if a girl I was with regularly could not get there. Luckily, I've never had that problem, but it would definitely bother me.

I do know it is not an uncommon thing though.

[CSD610]

Originally Posted by reed067

If I didn't have to go to work tonight I'd whip some popcorn out for this one. Sadly I think I'm going to miss out on this one.

I'll save you some popcorn, extra butter? Do you prefer Pepsi Throwback or another beverage with your popcorn?

[katykat01]

That is so interesting. So, for you, everything else but the O is what's most important? Not saying its not important to me also, but I just don't understand not wanting that feeling at the end (or middle or a few times during) every single time?

I don't know how that happened and it hasn't happened in recent years, since I 1) no longer do anything sexual that early on, and 2) am able to be much more open with people now. My life was very different in my early 20s and I didn't look at relationships and sex the way I do now. Now that I'm in my 30s, I see things in a different way and don't rush into sex, since I know that doesn't meet my emotional needs. I think having the orgasm so soon was like the end of a chase. Kind of like how a guy gets sick of a girl who's too easy and doesn't call the next day.

[Red On The Noodle]

Originally Posted by ChiGuy2.5

I agree. I am also looking for suggestions on how to get her to open up if anyone has any.

Pillow talk...in the dark. She might be more comfortable then. Good luck

[zentropa]

Originally Posted by katykat01

TIME. She doesn't know you or trust you yet.

This. I think three intimate encounters is too soon to start pushing her to get graphic with you. Just take your time and be patient. It's not a contest.

[Don't Panic!]

Originally Posted by ChiGuy2.5

I agree. I am also looking for suggestions on how to get her to open up if anyone has any.

By the sound of it "getting her to open up" hasn't been a problem..