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Old 03-20-2012, 08:08 PM
 
Location: a primitive state
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I missed the part about how young you are when I first commented. 19 is very young to be dating someone that much older. Ordinarily I'd say go with it, but...oh what the heck, make your own decision.
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Old 03-20-2012, 08:10 PM
 
Location: FL
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No doubt - 50 year old men who go after 19 year old GIRLS have issues.
Why? Most normal men are attracted to young women who are pretty and have nice bodies. It's human nature. That doesn't mean that something is wrong with the man. Again, they're both adults and if he wants to sleep with a 19 yr old and she is ok with it I see nothing wrong it. It's not like he is tricking or forcing her to do something against her will.
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Old 03-20-2012, 08:12 PM
 
Location: Austin
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You grew up quickly but you still lack the experience and wisdom this guy brings to the table.

I'd love to ask a 50 year old man why he's going after a 19 year old girl. I could see through his BS fairly easy, he's about my age and no way would I pursue a 19 YO girl.

That's way to young. No offense to you, but to him. He needs a slap on the head
Thank you. It needed to be said.

To the OP: I know that you feel that you're mature. I felt the same way when I was your age — that I was advanced well past my years. Part of the reason I felt this way was because I was moved up several grades, started university at 15. There are any number of reasons we feel "older than our years." Doesn't make it so.

The fact that you're contemplating a relationship with a man who is so much older than you when you're barely past your pubescent years tells me that you might not be as wise as you think. Please think about this. This isn't about "old souls" and all that guff. There are some brutal realities about your situation, and one is that this man is edging close to retirement, and you've barely started your life!

On a personal note, when I was at university, a 42-year-old (married) professor hit on me. I later found out that he was hitting on a lot of my peers who were still in their teens. So chances are pretty darned good that you are not the only one, especially if he has a modicum of money.
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Old 03-20-2012, 08:13 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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Why? Most normal men are attracted to young women who are pretty and have nice bodies. It's human nature. That doesn't mean that something is wrong with the man. Again, they're both adults and if he wants to sleep with a 19 yr old and she is ok with it I see nothing wrong it. It's not like he is tricking or forcing her to do something against her will.
She's a 19 year old girl. She's not even old enough to drink

You can say there's nothing wrong with a man who would do this, but people his age who are parents themselves know better.
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Old 03-20-2012, 08:14 PM
 
Location: FL
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I know I'm still going to be nieve about certain things but I want to give it a go with this guy, if for nothing else so I know not to make the mistake again.
Honey, we all live and learn. You're an adult and you have to make your own decisions. You'll stumble along the way but don't let people on a internet site dissuade you from what you feel you must do. I'll be the first to say that he maybe a bit too old for you and that you two will not have a lot in common but you need to understand that for yourself. None of us can or will convince you of that. Good luck.
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Old 03-20-2012, 08:14 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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My coach and him are good friends (in fact they dated for a while 30 years ago) so I know he isn't married and has no little ones running around out there. She is the closest thing I have to a parent and although she was wary when I mentioned it she wasn't suprised as she sees how happy we are when together.

I know I'm still going to be nieve about certain things but I want to give it a go with this guy, if for nothing else so I know not to make the mistake again.
Your coach??

Please don't tell me you are still in high school
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Old 03-20-2012, 08:15 PM
 
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She's a 19 year old girl. She's not even old enough to drink

You can say there's nothing wrong with a man who would do this, but people his age who are parents themselves know better.
I'm English , I'm very much old enough to drink :-)
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Old 03-20-2012, 08:16 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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Honey, we all live and learn. You're an adult and you have to make your own decisions. You'll stumble along the way but don't let people on a internet site dissuade you from what you feel you must do. I'll be the first to say that he maybe a bit too old for you and that you two will not have a lot in common but you need to understand that for yourself. None of us can or will convince you of that. Good luck.
She is NOT an adult.

She is of "legal age" to vote, make contracts, or join the military.

Big difference.
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Old 03-20-2012, 08:16 PM
 
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Your coach??

Please don't tell me you are still in high school
No im in university
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Old 03-20-2012, 08:17 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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I'm English , I'm very much old enough to drink :-)
Okay, sorry about that, made the mistake of thinking you are an American.

You aren't still in school then are you? Please say you are at least at university?
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