bf always in a rush to make me leave. why? (movies, boyfriend)

[mariagostrey]

so i have been seeing my bf for like 5 months now. i really enjoy our time together but i cant help but feel like he is always so quick to end our hangout sessions. firstly, we dont see each other all that much; twice a week 3-4 hours each with one of times when i sleep over. other than that we have very limited contact. ( he doesnt like talking on the phone so i keep them short and rare).

but when i sleep over for example, he is like "when should you leave in the morning?" and when i say 10 am, he just says "oh, time for you to go!" on the dot and then i have no choice but to leave...even if i had the room to stay an extra 15 or so mins just to be in his company.granted 90% of the time i am on a tight schedule and its important that i leave on time, but his constant reminding makes me feel like im not wanted there...is it crazy to want a bf who WANTS to have you stay later, longer? i just dont feel welcome and act super self conscious and paranoid. i just wish we would hang out and just let it be, instead of carefully blocked sessions of time. it feels like an appointment and not a natural thing.


i have tried to let it not bother me but it grates on me. and im really annoyed. do i have the right to be? how should i deal with this?

[lovesthebass]

That's pretty odd behavior. By no means do I speak for all men, but if I like someone and have limited contact, I'd like to spend as much time as possible with them. The same thing with the phone. I also HATE talking on the phone, but if I like someone enough, I will talk to them until my phone dies.

The last thing I would do is kick you out at the time you preset.

Then again, maybe he just wants you to be on time as you said you are on a tight schedule.

[D217]

Find somebody else?

[Huckleberry3911948]

he can tell u wana move in. he does not wana go there.

[Threerun]

I always liked my GF's company. All the time. Now that we're married (for 23 years), I can't get her to leave.

What's your BF's number?

[phoenix_down]

That's definitely suspicious. I echo the other guys' responses here. If I'm into someone, I'd want to make time for her even if I'm really busy and pressed for time. I would suggest perhaps talking to him about it. Open communications is always a good policy.

[lakeman0]

He does not want you to get too comfortable at his place. He is not ready for you to move in. That is not necessarily bad at 5 months in the relationship.

[CSD610]

Originally Posted by mariagostrey

so i have been seeing my bf for like 5 months now. i really enjoy our time together but i cant help but feel like he is always so quick to end our hangout sessions. firstly, we dont see each other all that much; twice a week 3-4 hours each with one of times when i sleep over. other than that we have very limited contact. ( he doesnt like talking on the phone so i keep them short and rare).

but when i sleep over for example, he is like "when should you leave in the morning?" and when i say 10 am, he just says "oh, time for you to go!" on the dot and then i have no choice but to leave...even if i had the room to stay an extra 15 or so mins just to be in his company.granted 90% of the time i am on a tight schedule and its important that i leave on time, but his constant reminding makes me feel like im not wanted there...is it crazy to want a bf who WANTS to have you stay later, longer? i just dont feel welcome and act super self conscious and paranoid. i just wish we would hang out and just let it be, instead of carefully blocked sessions of time. it feels like an appointment and not a natural thing.


i have tried to let it not bother me but it grates on me. and im really annoyed. do i have the right to be? how should i deal with this?

Why would you stay when the sex is over? Meet his other girlfriend maybe that is coming at 10:30.

[JordanJP]

He just wants you to bone and go. Sorry to tell you that.

[supernaut112]

Wow, that's really rude behavior, and personally, I wouldn't put up with it for a nanosecond.

I don't know what's going on in your boyfriend's mind. If this bothers you, you need to come right out and tell him how you feel rather than hypothesizing. We're just strangers. The only thing we can do is give you our opinions, but that won't be fact.

If your gut tells you that something's off, something is off. How old are the two of you? When did you first start sleeping together? Is it understood that the two of you have an exclusive relationship? Does he take you out to restaurants and movies (on dates)? Because this sounds more like a "hook up" than a bonafide relationship.