Til Death (or seperate beds) do us part (date, marriage, cheated)
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my parents slept in seperate beds for as long as i can remember, due to his snoring, and i told myself id never do that; but now i find myself doing the very thing they did, and enjoying it! i like sleeping in another room, and getting a good nights rest, but think its really hurting our relationship. is it really that big of deal to not sleep together?
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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If it's hurting your relationship and you care about that relationship, yes, it's a big deal. If you're both ok with it--really ok with it, not just saying so--then no, it's no big deal. Depends on the couple.
People erroneously assume that couples who have separate bedrooms have stopped having sex or have it very rarely. This is not always true.
My grandparents always slept in separate bedrooms but grandma said to me with a wink, "I still have legs and can walk over to Grandpa's room at night." (Long pause). "And I do."
well, we are ok with it, really; but we do rarely have intimacy regardless of seperate sleeping, and it worries me that sooner or later it will cause our demise. i shouldve mentioned my folks divorced after 35 yrs because dad eventually cheated.
What it takes to hold a marriage together is a lot different than what it takes to get a good nights sleep. I was at a house a few days ago where we are looking at divorce settlement. I am a real estate appraiser, so I was doing the appraisal inspection. My partner was talking to the lady of the house while I was measuring, when I noticed the owner crying. I tend to stay out of that sort of thing but my partner seems to get into it a lot. The background story is that her husband had gotten up a couple of Saturday's ago and during breakfast told her that he had filed for divorce the day before. She was totally blindsided.....and devastated.
I could see that they had been sleeping in different rooms, but I also suspicion that they had not been intimate for a long time......and that can be a real wedge issue.
My only suggestion, is that if you are going to sleep in different bedrooms, increase your personal attention to each other. Be romantic. Date her the way you would someone new.
I hope your marriage lasts another lifetime.......good luck.
My dh is on the floor more than he's in bed with me, but I can't imagine being apart from him. No way. I plan on getting some kind of custom rig for the bedroom to deal with his Uncle Fester back.
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I like knowing when I reach for her shes there.
